Dance Floor Approach from Behind - Never?

WuDynasty · 2013-07-26T15:26:57+00:00

Here is my opinion, which I've based off entirely off personal experience.

Please we weary, what I do, might not work for you.

Since I've matured as a man, I've never, never, EVER, have approached a girl on the dance floor. Ever.

Since I've matured as a man, I've never had a companionless night on the dance floor. I have had a 100% success rate with my dance game. Pretty outrageious claim huh?

Bro, you're there to dance, and have a good time, you're not there to only dance when you have a person to dance with.

When you go up, and you're not dancing, and you ask, or any of that shit, you're making it look as if you need her to dance with you.

She doesn't know anything about you!!! You could be a horrible dancer, or a weirdo, etc.

You must show her that dancing with you is ok, and funner than what she is doing now. If you're having fun dancing with girls, why would you dance with a guy if itwon't be as fun. She has no guarantee or info to base that call. And you'll get passed up.

So what do I do? First thing's first is establish a sincere and positive frame.

I am here to dance

I go out to the dance floor, ALONE, and I fuckin rock it. I go straight ham. Espescially if it's EDM. I've noticed a fucking straight up pattern when this happens.

You go out, you start dancing. You go ham, you smile, and enjoy every fuckin millisecond.

Suddnely, people space out from you, you'll notice you have a small circle of space. (While maturing in the game, this sometimes gave me thoughts of like "Oh shit, people must think I look stupid or something"

That may be the case, but I still go ham, and I got a huge smile on my face cuz I'm having a great time.

Slowly but surely, it's fuckin fail proof bro. You'll find girls starting to revolve in that circle of space. They being to come closer.

At that point you seriously have choices. I am not lying.

I've decided a few times to continue dancing alone (I'm not ignoring, I'm simply having too much fun with myself)

That one girl will elave the space, and sure enough with due time another one comes in.

I've done this practice with success dozens upon dozens of times, but the key factor is SINCERITY.

You are having a great time! People can and will see when you're faking the funk.

Making the move is literally simple, you'll be so fuckin surprised how clearly evident it is that she is trying to engage YOU! All you literally have to do is smile, look at them and put your hand out.

Like I said though this may work for me and not you. Some guys just aren't into the dance scene, or have that persona about them. You gotta find what's right for you.

Talking at the bar with drinks game? I got about zero of that, getting girls through dancing? I got it man. I've learned so much about body language, and it's even more evident on the dance floor.

You can tell straight up who is having a good time, who is faking the funk, who is embarrassed, anxious, HORNY, etc.

TL DR - don't ever approach, dance and have a good time alone, and I promise you, you'll have opportunities presented to you.

ThugAimer · 2013-07-26T10:48:16+00:00

Approach her and walk around her to the front, but as you're doing so, hold out your hand and maintain eye contact. If she grabs it, game on.

awinnarisyou · 2013-07-26T10:53:58+00:00

I have had nothing but success by putting my hand on their waist and then moving to their side and smiling. Depends on the vibes you are getting from the girl really.

Definitely don't tap on her shoulder and ask her anything though, that is just setting you up for failure. Other two options appear fine but to clarify, does this mean grinding?

Just go for it from behind and hope for the best (could be creepy)

WillRedditForBitcoin · 2013-07-26T16:26:51+00:00

I actually wondered about the same thing. I'm dancing around when a girl turns up, walks in front of me, starts dancing and reverses into me and she continues to do that over and over again. Does not matter if the dance floor is busy or not. She could be in the group or on her own. This keeps on happening over and over again. The thing that confuses me is the fact that when I grab her by the waste and start dancing with her it's about 50/50 I get a positive reaction. Sometimes they look at me like I just tried to rape them which is understandable because of the behind approach but at the same time, WTF do they expect?

The thing is, I'm 100% certain they do it intentionally. You have to have something seriously wrong with your spacial awareness to go and "accidentally" repeatedly ass bum into a guy on a dance floor while there is a ton of space around everyone.

You know what, I'll just ask them next time.

NaturalAFC · 2013-07-26T12:51:01+00:00

Do the butt bump by backing it up into her. Then act offended when she "invades your space." I always like to be playful and a little outrageous.

2013-07-26T09:38:24+00:00

There was a Music festival named Fame u18's in Sydney last year. During this festival, I performed the "Just go for it from behind and hope for the best" and it worked 5/7 times that I tried it. When it didn't work was when the girl was isolated outside of the moshpit. TL;DR my advice to you is just go all in for the kill if your in a moshpit, otherwise drop a few lines on the girl and ask her if she wants to dance.

SwissPUA · 2013-07-26T18:54:15+00:00

You never approach from behind.

You either center on yourself and attract girls passively (this will work if you're attractive) or you do a research on how to approach girls on the dancefloor. Protip on the latter: YouTube videos are insanely helpful because it's all about the actions.

Greetings, a guy who had a lot of club romances after discovering PUA. I'm also mostly focussing on night game because that's more congruent to my personality.

slcjosh · 2013-07-26T15:27:10+00:00

if you are getting the vibe she is moving in front of you on purpose, just grab her by the waste and extend your hand, grab her hand, and then do the spin move. easy way to gauge if she is interested or not. i had a friend who is a total natural and ive literally seen him just pull a girls fucking hair. not aggressively just playfully. they almost always turn around, smiling, faking that they are "upset" and they walk up to him and playfully hit him or whatever. it all depends just do you. but no matter what dont do the shoulder tap thats beta as fuck.

Baylien · 2013-07-26T15:51:11+00:00

I do it all the time...I see a booty moving in front of me and I hop on it...sometimes it works sometimes it doesnt as with all things.

2013-07-26T20:51:01+00:00

Never grab or approach a girl from behind. She could turn around and see ryan gosling and she would still have the same instinctive reaction - fear. We have evolved over millions of generations but we still can't intellectually remove the instinct to fear something coming from behind. Even though she might end up liking you, you start off from a more difficult point than otherwise.

JuanP_ · 2013-07-27T00:41:43+00:00

Right hand rule : put your hand on her hip. If she let it there you start dancing with her, if not then....well I think you get it lol

NahDudeFkThat · 2013-07-27T02:17:51+00:00

walk past her to open someone else that's looking at you. after a little bit, turn to the girl who wants the D and... stick the middle finger at her, or stick your tongue out at her. whatever. deadpan face.

then approach her from the front.

dem0nhunter · 2013-07-26T09:27:10+00:00

Why do you insist on approaching from behind?

Title	Dance Floor Approach from Behind - Never?
Author	wtfdoidoh
Upvotes	15
Comments	35
Date	July 26, 2013 9:05 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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