This is a field report, partly to keep it for the record, and partly because I'd like to show an example of how things go right when they go right, for both the man and the woman in an interaction.

3 days ago I was walking down the street I see this girl walk past me. Pure stunner, almost as tall as me (6'1). Easily catwalk material. She had an knee high skirt, a colourful scarf around her neck, and boots that went mid calf. I should say it was clear she put effort into her appearance and femininity, because no doubt without all that and the makeup she would probably look like any other girl.

She had a certain self-assured feminine demeanour i don't know what it is, but i know it when I see and it makes the veins in my arms and legs pump up with adrenaline. Its presence is intoxicating.

She stopped for a second looking for directions, so I turn around and talk to her, ask her what she's looking for, then I tell her I'm talking to her because I like the way she is presenting herself. I tell her I'm unsure about her though and I'd like to know whether she's as cool as she looks. Then I ask her how I might go about contacting her and she offered me her number and I immediately text to say hi. We walk another few steps as she goes her own way and my own way.

She texted me later that day "Hi <my first name>". I send her one text to tease her about being lost, then I ask her to come out see me at place X at time Y the following day after my salsa class. A few hours later she accepts and says "See you at X". I think it was 4 or 5 texts total.

On the day she sends a text that she's there and I didn't notice, the venue is big and only after 10 minutes I tell her that I'm out to find her. Turns out she left for a bit, but came back when she saw my text. We then proceeded to take a corner at the bar and laugh it off. I tell her let's grab a drink, we both get one I pay for them both, as she was fumbling around her purse I tell her she can get the next round.

I veered the conversation away from the interview style to just a playful chat. Neither of us was trying to impress the other, it was effortless, there were long comfortable moments of silence. She just made it so easy. Smiles all around, comfortable self assured demeanour, responded well to teases and never put off a standoffish attitude. It was clear she had high standards without saying she had high standards if you catch my drift.

She certainly showed plenty of vulnerability, the kind that reassures me and somewhat engages a protective side. There was no doubt I'd ever wish to hurt or disappoint this girl. She asked what the city has to offer and in that moment it happened that I was planning to take us to a live music venue. We go there and proceed to have a grand time. I gauge her responsiveness to kino and touches, and she gives me very good clues as to what she finds comfortable. I was certainly pushing the envelope sometimes (she was irresistible). At some point she opens up about herself, she is a past ceiling junior national champion with however many gold medals and silver medals and what not. She was almost embarrassed at saying this. Quite accomplished. I acted completely normal to this.

At some point in the night we sort of felt it and I held her head and kissed her. She is a great kisser. There was a moment of silence after this as she melted into my arms. Just comfortable good time together. Eventually, we take a taxi to our neighbourhood (turns out that we live close). We come out and stand for a good night kiss. When she got home she thanked me for the night and said she wanted to see me again. I'm busy for a few nights but I'll certainly want to see her early next week.

Here I am on the next morning and I can't shake her off my head. When you get this kind of feminine energy it's fucking intoxicating I can't think of anything else, her scent, her smiles, her gracious energy. It's special. Help me god get through today.

Anyway, I've had quite a few dates in the past, some go bad, and some go really well, and I wanted to give a glimpse of why this went well from my side, the things that I liked about her:

  • No games via text. Straight to the point.
  • She was 100% yielding. She let me plan the night through and she followed up with grace. Pretty much every movement was initiated by me (drinks, moving places, etc). It was like leading a salsa dance - the man leads, but the woman is the show.
  • But, this didn't make her dumb or a doormat. She was accomplished in her own right and didn't need to boss around.
  • She radiated energy and high standards. She didn't need to say it, or pretend it. The way she carried herself with grace, her feminine appearance and demeanour, her blushes, moments of laughter mixed with embarrassment. She told it all via her natural actions.
  • She made it clear what was comfortable and not comfortable for her. She gave me clues. She had "girl game".
  • Plenty of smiles, plenty of laughs.
  • We traded paying for drinks I think in the end it was evenly split.

From my side:

  • Have a plan. Lead.
  • Escalate subtly and watch her receptiveness.
  • Give her a good time.
  • Act as if she's just another little girl who just wants to have a good time. Don't overcompliment.
  • Enjoy your time, and in the process have her enjoy you presence.

Anyway, you can tell I'm stupidly smitten. Let me rest now. I hope I'll see her again, but even if I don't it's been a special night.

Hope this helps somebody.