Dating with ED at a young age?

sowhatBrother · 2019-09-03T02:04:32+00:00

What tablets are you taking? (Antidepressants kill your sensitivity down there.) Anyway, there are a lot of fun things to do with a woman besides fucking. Learn to give massages- they love it and will take the pressure off of you. You may be surprised, how easy sex comes after that.

Spherickle · 2019-09-01T23:35:58+00:00

It should be noted that so long as you're an interesting person, then your being a virgin won't matter in a relationship. Virginity is just a lack of experience, it's not something to be ashamed of in any format, regardless of what high school gym class has taught us. But if it bothers you that much, the simplest way to handle it is to just not bring it up. When it's ignored, it doesn't become a factor, and soon enough you won't be a virgin, which gives you even less reason to bring it up.

And I've struggled with porn induced ED myself. Less than a year ago I was wacking it like 3-4 times a day and staying at home during that time period. A complete loner for probably a year+. And when I was given the chance to be with a girl, I couldn't perform. That's when I started researching and came across what porn induced ED was. I was devastated. Immediately, I tried to quit porn many times, but sadly failed and relapsed after a while. And you know what? I just kept trying to quit. I haven't gotten to the point that I'm completely done with porn, but I don't watch it nearly as often as I used to and don't let it affect me in any manner now outside of a break from life. Whenever I had the urge, I would go do something physical. Take a walk, go get a drink, play some pickup, the works. That's what combated the ED, distraction and being social. Porn is fine in small amounts, especially in circumstances of stress relief. It's the large amounts that mess us up.

Finally, regarding the girls. In my case, my ED didn't go away entirely, and I still have some occasional issues with my soldier performing on command. But I did myself the favor of not making the sex about me. If it didn't want to work, then I'd give my 100% on my partners pleasure. The girls I got with(which weren't many 'cause I'm still a loner), even when I wasn't working properly, left happy and satisfied because I made it about them. One ended up being a FWB, and in her case, as I grew more comfortable around her and her body, the ED issues went away. Part of the reason porn induced ED is a problem is that our bodies grow accustomed to it, and when we try to go to sex or to different things, it shuts down on us. So when we introduce new things to become accustomed to, it'll adjust itself accordingly.

One thing I would recommend though is for you to start investing in parental blockers for yourself. Most products that have access to the internet, computers and tablets and phones, have website blockers that you can place by way of your provider. I blocked every bit of porn I'd ever used from my computer, and have been slowly but surely doing the same to my phone in fits of post-nut-regrets. If you can't touch the temptation, eventually there won't be a temptation.

welshwelsh · 2019-09-02T01:16:11+00:00

Porn is not the problem. I promise.

It is impossible to get an erection if your adrenaline level is too high. Adrenaline constricts blood vessels which reduces the flow of blood to your penis.

Nervousness and performance anxiety lead to increased levels of adrenaline, which makes it impossible to get an erection. That's the problem here. You are insecure and worried that you will be judged for your sexual performance, you are worrying that your dick won't get hard and that she will judge you for it.

Here's what you've gotta do. Tell the girl that it's been awhile and that you're a bit nervous about sex. Decide that instead of penetration, you are just going to focus on getting comfortable with the girl. Get as much skin-to-skin contact as you can and focus all of your attention on her. Listen for her breath and synchronize your breathing with her. Take your time with foreplay and get her off first. If you still are not hard after that, then you need to talk to her more. Unlike with porn, living out your sexual fantasies with another person takes a lot of communication. Talk to her about what you would like to do with her. You will get hard once you are both on the same page.

Also, if you're feeling too nervous for sex, there's nothing wrong with cuddling instead. Cuddling can be a really great experience all on its own and is a great way to get more comfortable with someone. Men don't seem to realize this.

Title	Dating with ED at a young age?
Author	Zachary0187
Upvotes	2
Comments	5
Date	September 1, 2019 10:53 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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