So I've been doing cold approaching for many years, but up until recently I've only done situational approaches. What I call situational approach is when you're on your way somewhere and chat up a girl in a way that fits some situation. Situational approaches have high conversion rate, but the downside is that they are rare. Couple of examples:

  • I'm walking to the tube (London underground train) and I see this hot girl waiting by the entrance, no other people around. I approach her and say "Hi. Sorry I'm late. Have you waited long for me?". She's laughing and repeating "I'm waiting for someone" in French accent. I ask for her name, but she wouldn't tell me, so I eject.
  • I'm stuck in a traffic island due to red light with this hot girl, so I ask her "So which way are you going?". She says she has a boyfriend and she's meeting him for dinner. Saved by the green light.

Saturday (yesterday) in Oxford street. I meet up with this other daygamer as I'm curious to see what strategies other guys are using. He says he doesn't use the 3 second rule, he uses 0 second rule, which is kinda funny. He does 5-6 brute force approaches (just runs after the girl), gets 100% rejection rate.

My strategy is different. I don't chase as I consider that losing frame and just being a needy beta in general. I do side or head on approaches, never turning back and chasing the girl or shit like that. This strategy has downsides, because you have to react super fast and you don't know if that guy behind that girl is her boyfriend or that old woman is her mom. I hesitate and miss many good sets because of that. I have zero problems with confidence - I'm 183 cm (6 foot), muscular (lifting for 10 years), so my blowouts are always rather respectful, but having said that I just hate drama and overly awkward situations.

So I do about 10 approaches, most quick blowouts, one set is a couple of Belgian tourists fiddling with their camera. I sustain some 2 minutes of conversation, but they're not biting so I eject. One set is a hot blonde who turns out is from the same country as me (I'm from EU), but while not a blowout, she's not being particularly cooperative and says she's in London for only one day, so I eject.

Sunday (today) in Oxford street again. I meet up with another daygamer, but he's at the end of his session, so I watch him to get one quick blowout (although he does manage to stop this chick head on and make her take her earphones out, if only for some 5 seconds). I'm cruising around for hours and it seems rather different from the day before, or maybe it's just bad luck. I cruise around for hours, but I end up surveying smaller streets in the area and only do a couple of attempts. One approach head on, I step slightly into her path, say "Hi", she says "Hi" back and blows right past me. Another chick is standing fiddling with her phone, so I say "Hi" and she takes off.

Observations. Head on approach is a motherfucker, like I've already mentioned due to fast reaction time I just miss most sets. Possible to get better with practice, a lot of it. Most solo chicks have fucking earphones in their ears and they also seem to maintain faster pace which complicates head on approach further. Funny moment - I was about to side open one chick, but then I saw god damn ipods (my kryptonite) in her ears and she was texting on Tinder, which in my situation was ironic considering all the "get off Tinder and approach" mantra on this sub.

Another thing I noticed is that it's important to find a place and time with optimal density of people - when there's too many you can't do shit, because you're just rubbing shoulders and trying to maneuver. When there's too little, there are just not enough viable targets. Also from my personal recent experience I've noticed that compared to the volume of people I've passed, there were extremely few good looking solo chicks to open, even in one of the busiest streets in the world. I've seen someone say that popular daygaming areas such as Oxford Street have been "overfished" and the girls there are vary, which kinda sucks if that indeed is the case. I think not acting like a typical PUA (which is what I'm trying to do) may help in this situation.

Due to my tight schedule I can't afford to do approaching on working day. I've also optimized the shit out of my routine - I get everything delivered to my door, including groceries, so I can't do much casual approaching and the only way for me is to dedicate some time specifically for that during weekends. Sometimes I combine it with shopping for clothes or stuff like that. When I go out to approach, I clean up and dress up like I was going on a date. The two daygamers that I met showed up like they've just finished their shift at some warehouse, unshaved, etc, which in my opinion is a mistake, but to each their own I guess.

EDIT: Bonus point - on Saturday I saw Yad himself in Oxford street, which made my day, because if an ugly fat fuck like him can pull chicks in daygame, then not all is lost for me 😆