For me success in being seductive comes naturally when i am comfortable in my own skin and relaxed. When it happens, in social gatherings like in a bar or a party, i sometimes naturally create cool and zen vibes around me, radiating positivity.

But this has sometimes a huge downside: How do you deal with people who are attracted to your vibe but YOU are not really interested in them? It can be tricky to get out of a conversation with someone who wants your attention, but you feel that you are getting sucked out of your energy by staying around them, answer their endless questions etc. One way is to try to get out of the conversation in a least obvious way -not an easy task-, and move to someone that it's nice talking to, but that hurts them, and puts me on a guilt trip. Then the positive mindset is gone. So it's a lose lose situation.

This is especially frustrating during possible hookups. Good vibes makes girls come nearby, nice interactions happens, and everything is going great. But then again this coin has two sides. You also attract unwanted attention. Such as curious people that come close to understand your "game". Random annoying drunken dudes, dickheads that consider themselves your friend because you had some exchange with them etc, or just nice strangers on low energy that rain on you a string of questions about your job and you are not interested in this interaction right now.

Not to mention when a third person is inviting themselves to a fluent conversation with a girl and not willing to get the clue. I can literally go from 90 percent self confidence to 10 percent within seconds in this kind of situations. When someone is observing my "act" or my courting/approach. When the interaction is no longer 1/1.

This is a bit of an exaggeration of multiple scenarios just to make a clear point. How do you keep being cool, respectful, guilt free, and still taking care of yourself on such situations?