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[–][deleted] 12 points13 points14 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Damn you seem like you got your stuff together but can’t even get a non overweight woman?
This shows you how competitive the dating market is.
Skinny attractive women have their pick. So you need to increase your value.
And by value I mean looks, status. You got the height.
[–]revente 14 points15 points16 points 3 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Step 1:
Only approach attractive women. No more fatties or uglies. Girls won’t respect someone who clearly cannot respect himself.
Actually attractive girls are easier to approach because they have solid social skills and are on average much nicer.
How many women do you think I will have to approach?
Who the fuck knows. Probably hundreds if you choose to daygame.
Only 10% of girls are single/straight/not crazy/not on their period/etc and are ‚approachable’.
[–]johansen89 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Yeah most of the women I have been with are through friends and online dating. I’m super shy and I just got out of a 4 year relationship with a large woman(210lbs). I am starting to come out of my shell and not be so introverted now. It kind of irritates me because I know what kind of women I want to be with but it’s my fault because I never approach them when I’m out and about.
[–][deleted] 4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ya iv noticed more and more bigger women with fitter (than them) men. It’s more common these days.
[–]5_7pickup 4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
RSD Tyler is bald, white, and a ginger. He's also way shorter than you. I think 5 8 at most. He's probably one of the best PUA in the world.
The answer is not hard, you just have to go do it. As for how many? Idk. Nobody knows. There's 100 variables when it comes to game. Just go take action instead of pondering pointless questions.
[–]revente 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
how hard is it to get attractive women back to my place? How many women do you think I will have to approach?
With this attitude. Many.
[+]SheMyHeroine4 points 3 years ago [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]johansen89 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
The number one, and really only tip I can give about cold approaching is: She shouldn't know it's a cold approach. If she can tell "oh this guy wants to fuck me" as soon as the interaction starts then it takes the intrigue and the fun out of it. Just act like it's some incidental interaction, get her to laugh during the conversation and end it with getting their number or social media handle so you can talk later.
By nature, cold approaches have like a 1% success rate. It's purely a numbers game, you must know you're likely going to strike out going into it. You have to be willing to eat rejection like it's breakfast if you want it to be effective.
[–]epimpstyle 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Don’t really have any friends that I can go down town and cold approach women with...
Some "friends" will be an obstacle for you when they see that you approached a woman, and they will do all kinds of things to decrease your value. If your friends are not valuable, better to go alone.
how hard is it to get attractive women back to my place?
It will not happen on the same day/evening when you picked up a woman. You need the second and the third hangout until you can expect to show her where you live or maybe to drink a red vine at your place..
How many times do you throw a basketball until you score? Nobody knows... but if you are lucky it can be the first one. Mystery said that you are closer to your goal with every rejection that you get. Even if there is a chance of 1/100, all you have to do is to be rejected 99 times :-)
Any tips on cold approaching?
I'm always doing an indirect approach because it looks more natural. I am also well over 30 so I can't tell a woman directly: "Hi, you look cute, I want to talk to you"...this is used by young people. In a mall "Where is XXXX store?" or maybe: "Excuse me, received an SMS and I left home my glasses...." or maybe "I don't see the price of an article"... it doesn't matter what you are saying. it is just a reason to start talking to her. You can feel if the woman wants to talk to you because she will talk more than it is necessary. If she is like: "ok", "yes", "aha"...not even looking at you, well... it doesn't worth talking to her more - you got the idea.
[–]JGoonSquad 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Cold approaching is dead in 2022 imo. It was more effective in the past before the advent of the smart phone and social media. Your best bet is to find women through your job or social circle or hobbies or something along those lines. If you must cold approach I'd do it in an environment where it's socially acceptable like a bar or a club. Walking up to random women in malls or grocery stores is awkward and an abnormal social behavior to partake in. Lastly, don't beat yourself up man if you struggle with women. Millions of men are in the same boat as you are. Most men have become obsolete to women so it's becoming more and more difficult to get women these days.
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