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[–]omega05 10 points11 points12 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
How are you depressed if you know you are going to see her again?
Get your sexy on and make that approach. Tell her to stop staring at you while you're working out with a playful grin
[–]The_Wisest -1 points0 points1 point 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
That’s the thing, I’ve seen her several times before but what if she stops coming? What if her schedules changes and I never see her again.. no guarantee I will see her again. I just feel like a failure for not being a man as I couldn’t even say a simple hello to her, if that
[–]omega05 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Is she the only attractive woman that frequents that gym? Is she the only attractive women in your city?
Come on now why is this woman your everything?
Like you're in the gym regularly it sounds like which is better than many people already yet you're letting one girl make you feel like a failure. Thats crazy
[–]dasanman69 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Stop thinking about what could go wrong and focus on what could go right.
[–][deleted] 4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Don’t let other people dictate your happiness. If you’re not happy without her, then you need to work on that.
[–]Portgas 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I don't. Missed opportunities aren't opportunities. You can talk to her later.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
Just forget about this girl completely, you can't get depressed about thus kind of crap if you get rid of any crushes you have.
That's what I did, I don't get crushes anymore so I don't feel any of this kind of stuff anymore.
Like why the fuck am I busting my ass in the gym day after day if I can’t even build up the courage to talk to a girl like a normal human being??
You do that so you can get a better physique and be healthier, why on earth would you do it for some girl that probably doesn't even think about you?
[–]chillbill1220 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Agreed. Crushes are childish. You’re building the other person up in your head when you don’t even know them. There’s plenty of attractive girls. You shouldn’t be feeling an attachment towards any of them until a real connection is built
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
You shouldn’t be feeling an attachment towards any of them until a real connection is built
I'd go further and just say to avoid any real connection with them at all as well and just focus on what you're there for, to work out
[–]chillbill1220 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
If she’s constantly checking him out and he finds her attractive then he should eventually approach. Tread lightly. Start out friendly and feel it out. I agree you shouldn’t be hitting on girls at the gym but if she’s giving to all the signs then go for it. Never know. Could end up being his wife.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
There's no way of knowing a girl is checking him out unless she straight up tells him that.
Tread lightly. Start out friendly and feel it out. I agree you shouldn’t be hitting on girls at the gym but if she’s giving to all the signs then go for it.
Walking on eggshells there isn't a good idea, no amount of signs suffices for a guy to "go for it". It's still too dangerous.
Never know. Could end up being his wife
You also never know, the guy could end up getting kicked out of the gym or arrested
[–]chillbill1220 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
You’re not gonna get kicked out of the gym for saying Hi to a girl and introducing yourself. Just be friendly. It’s not a big deal.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
There's no friendly way of saying hi and introducing oneself as a guy to a girl.
The girl would immediately be on alert even if she's in between sets and would wonder what this creep at the gym wants.
She might even be put off by it and always weary/cautious of you now.
The only time where I'd probably be acceptable for the guy to approach is once the girl has approached the guy at least twice, just to make sure there's no danger.
[–]chillbill1220 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I hope you’re trolling. That’s a pretty ridiculous mindset
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Well that's the mindset I've lived by so far, unless you want to say I'm trolling myself
[–]zapadz 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
So why don’t you just talk to her next time you see her?
[–]The_Wisest -1 points0 points1 point 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]zapadz 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just warm up by approaching and chatting with other random people and complimenting girls and walking away, then when you see her start approaching before your mind has a chance to distract you with negative thoughts, and have a prepared opener so you don’t over think.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=08sXxIx6ots
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XMChZC2fopI
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fuUPdPov0K4
[–]atomant88 -4 points-3 points-2 points 3 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
dont make approaches at the gym.
[–][deleted] -5 points-4 points-3 points 3 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
Or anywhere really for that matter
[–]atomant88 -2 points-1 points0 points 3 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
No you can make approaches anywhere that the other person is in the clear to be honest with you, and anywhere they're free to leave.
But dont make approaches to a captive audience, cause they wont get honest results.
Dont approach at work, the gym, or on transit
Game 101
No you can make approaches anywhere that the other person is in the clear to be honest with you, and anywhere they're free to leave
Are they not free to leave a gym?
I saw a guy on this very thread that slept with gym girls. The other day some girl told me she got approached by a guy on a plane.
Was that inappropriate then?
Also if we take your preference and every other person's preference of not where to approach, then men should not approach anywhere at all.
Game 201
[–]atomant88 -3 points-2 points-1 points 3 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
No you shouldn't be forced to leave a gym you paid to be at by some douchebag. That's your space, its not public space, you paid for it.
And no it wasnt appropriate to approach on a plane.
Respect peoples space. Public space is not the same as private space.
You need a lesson in consent and respect.
[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 3 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
No you shouldn't be forced to leave a gym you paid to be at by some douchebag. That's your space, its bot public space, you paid for it.
Same shit for clubs and bars. You paid your entrance to a club or you paid money for drinks, you shouldn't be forced to leave it by some douchebag.
And no it wasnt appropriate to approach on a plane
Damn, I guess it's time for them to break up their relationship then. Too bad so sad
No I don't, I don't approach girls or women
[–]atomant88 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
many people go to the bar to meet others, thats not why theyre at the gym. and you dont pay a monthly sub to go to the bar, you dont go there every day. its not the same at all
you can approach anyone you want in public. women, girls, men, boys, whatever you're into. just leave them alone when they cant be honest or exit the situation.
[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
many people go to the bar to meet others, thats not why theyre at the gym.
Many isn't enough, matter of fact many go to bars just to drink not get bothered by stranger guys.
and you dont pay a monthly sub to go to the bar, you dont go there every day. its not the same at all
It's the same crap, you're still spending money for yourself and not to get harassed or approached by strangers
I won't approach them, that's creepy
[–]atomant88 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
youre just trolling at this point. why are you in a pickup sub if you dont even do pickup?
I'm here to correct misinformation that's being spread like yours.
It seems many here are mislead, pick up isn't always the answer in the majority of places
Real question is, did you hit the PR?
What you really feel in this context, that you can't present your behaviour as rational when you will finally approach her after so much hestitation.
But you can. It's normal to hesitate. Anxiety doesn't come from nothing. Girls would like to see guys as other human beings, vulnerable like them. You can casually mention that you were exchanging glances when you will talk, which will release the tension, end of drama.
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