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CocoBabeNYC · 2022-08-14T14:47:31+00:00

I do t really understand what you asked that one girl dancing. Sounded pretty socially retarded to be honest.

But anyway, your problem is super common especially with guys who are in the "community". Community guys make several assumptions from which they operate out of which also get themselves shot in the foot. Every community guy approaches a situation like this "wow gorgeous sexy girl, she must be able to get any man she wants, her life must be so great and easy and she has it all figured out because she has a great ass, so she is up there. And then there is me, a nobody loser who is all the way down here. Now I have to figure out a way to work really hard and impress her so she sees me as an equal".

The problem is that you approach women as if there is some obstacle to overcome. You assume they are not interested and therefore you have to suet your "game" to overcome this inherent disinterest and win them over. You assume women are naturally opposed to any man getting them, so you have to work extra hard to pull them.

But as you have noticed your friends do none of the above and they get way more girls than you. Why is that? Well, they don't make the assumption that a woman is above them just because she's hot. They don't assume they are a nobody. They don't assume women don't like them so they have to work hard to overcome this obstacle and get them to like them. As a matter of fact, they probably approach situations thinking "Hey I'm a cool guy and I like myself and girls are always kind of interested in me, so I will chat to one that seems interesting to me and see what happens".

Stop assuming you are bottom of the barrel nobody. Stop assuming that you are inherently unattractive/uninteresting to women and that you have to overcompensate with your "seduction" skills. The best seduction skill you can get is to work on your self esteem. Create a new story for yourself where you tell yourself "Wherever I go, attractive women constantly pursue me and want to get my attention and get together with me. All I need to do is make them the luckiest girl in the bar by talking to them and giving them some attention."

Repeat this to yourself every day when you wake up and every night before going to bed and repeat as often as possible during the day. And stop trying to impress women. Stop "trying" too hard. You don't need to try at all.

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-08-14T15:45:44+00:00

Who says you need to go to a bar or a night club to get girls?

There are environments like that in which you will always be at a disadvantage and other environments where you will have it easier.

I know you say you are busy, but oh well then change your lifestyle so you are not busy anymore.

There is literally no point trying to do over and over night game if it’s not working for you, you need to try other things. And if your busy life doesn’t allow you then you need to focus first on changing that. Find a way to not be busy, change careers, take a sabbatical year or whatever…

zapadz · 2022-08-14T06:51:40+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y5Ls2TJKvLc

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ovS27WQU5-g

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JPCU03Dp8Zw

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ddfiZXyLM2Q

http://davidtianphd.com/masterclass-content/

2022-08-14T08:33:15+00:00

I'm saving your post both for his comment and because I have to remind myself that it isn't always gonna spark off. Hell, even when I have women clearly into me, I can still fuck it up. There's a lot more we have to do right than women do to access the same relationships and sex. People don't say it's harder for men for no reason. It doesn't mean it's always gonna end in failure.

MO_drps_knwldg · 2022-08-14T13:13:28+00:00

I know you’re giving one example, but the question about the top was random and weird within the context of the situation. It’s like you’re saying something for the sake of saying something. In those situations, just keep dancing, be playful, maintain eye contact. Say let’s get a drink after you’re done dancing.

SoccerFan1417 · 2022-08-14T14:20:54+00:00

Dont put relationships on a pedestal. Work on yourself, mind and body. Getting discouraged will put pressure on you and every time you dont get a date, you might feel discouraged again. Thats my best advice for you. Hope things get better for you in the future.

2022-08-14T22:50:46+00:00

People here will gaslight and tell you that you said the wrong thing or did the wrong thing.

Truth is you need to lvl up to become more appealing to these girls.

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