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[–]CocoBabeNYC 3 points4 points5 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Focus on what you bring to the table instead of what you want to take from them (such as approval, validation, attraction, sex). Every guy out there is there to take. They need and want because they lack and that makes them creepy. Being a guy who makes other peoples lives better by being a the life of the party, confident, carefree, is someone that every one wants to be wjth.
[–]golden-smokin 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I think it’s a by-product of two factors, internal and external game. The younger you are the less important internal game is and the more important external game is, in my opinion. (See the following definitions). Once women hit the epitome stage (28 years old+) this changes. But as a young man external game has such a large effect because girls just want to have fun, they want to be around fun people and be able to show off cool experiences to their friends. My buddies and I capitalize on this by constantly doing things that we enjoy and creating a good atmosphere and we all bring a girl or two, that way there are more women than men and it makes it easy, it also makes them want your attention more because they know that if they are having that much fun other girls would too, there-for it creates a scarcity mind set.
Internal game: -muscles -money -charisma
External: -status -lifestyle -network/‘cloud’
[–]epilamun 5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I've realised very recently that girls want to just talk. Find out more about them, be interested in who they are and what they have to offer. Looks are a plus but many girls see themselves as much more than that.
No clue how I got girls before this, primarily by luck, but this approach is working amazingly for me.
[–]Perfect_War5446 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
So just start talking to them and getting to know them?
[–]epilamun 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Exactly. I used to focus so much of my efforts on flirting and being witty. I realised I don't need to actively do either, they should come naturally.
[–]CanUnusual8729 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Focus on social intelligence and self-awareness. A lot of guys over think it but if you are good looking just be around girls and be cool. Less is more. You can’t build attraction by trying too hard. Girls are like cats. Don’t follow them around trying to get their attention. Focus your energy on being attractive (gym, clothes, well groomed, having fun) and when you’re around women in a social setting just have fun and make people laugh. They will notice you and become more curious. Obviously this is a little different if you’re cold approaching but still social proof is huge. Basically build a life that any girl would want to be a part of and they will make their way over to you and sit on your lap, just like a kitty cat.
[–]Perfect_War5446 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thanks for the advice
[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
When i was 5yrs old my grandma casted a spell on me ..she looked me in my eyes and said “when you get older you’re gonna be so handsome as a man you’re gonna be fighting girls off with a stick”
So I started at 16 my pals & I were horny dudes so we flirted & hit on anything moving & its also the same year i lost my v-card .. to me that was opening the flood gates because through out high school I had crushes that actually liked me back .. which gave me the opportunities to flirt & it helped me identify signals & hints that girls give.
Then i had female friends that would let me in on the secrets to getting pussy and what women usually look for in a guy they wanna fuck. My senior year I gained popularity It resulted in girls greeting me with hugs & kisses & I went to prom with the finest girl on campus which was my first time experiencing real jealousy & hate .. I was livin it up back then lol
During my 20’s my pals & I were out there clubbin & stumbling outta bars. We had cushy jobs so life was about money, weed & sex .. I had gf’s, fwb’s & ONS’s then i met my SO .. today im in my 40’s and women still love me .. i work at the DMV 36 windows and 26 of them are occupied by women. Its crazy lol
So you’re saying just start talking to a lot of girls?
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Im telling you my grandma casted a spell on me or should i say manifested things for me. Next thing i know I made good out of my high school years then as i got older things progressed .. i can suggest you talk to a lot of girls but what may worked for me may not work for you .. so its not so much of talk to a lot of girls you just gotta be social ..
[–]5_7pickup -1 points0 points1 point 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Refer to my field reports
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Truthfully, when I started to take social media and online dating more seriously.
Putting in the effort has built up my roster.
More matches, more messages, more willingness to meet up.
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