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labyrinthlilith · 2022-07-07T18:28:35+00:00

Is she getting off when you hook up? Are you SURE she’s getting off? It’s common for younger, more inexperienced women to say they came when they didn’t and if a guy isn’t very experienced, he won’t be able to tell the difference. That could explain her disinterest and rushing to get it over with.

MistyMaisel · 2022-07-07T19:27:12+00:00

I think, you need to communicate with her about this and ask what happened. We can't really help you as much as she could.

I know for me, if I'm trying to wrap it up, it could be for the following reasons:

We have an obligation to be somewhere or do something and it has wormed its way into my mind and I cannot enjoy the sex and I need it to end because we're late.
Something about my hormones is wacky and stuff isn't feeling right and I'm kind of lightly freaked out about that, but I don't want to tell you because you'll think it's you, when I know it's me. So can we finish this up so I can stop feeling freaked about my body.

Now, also, it could be that you hook up every time you're together. That might be a lot for her. It might make her wonder if you're just into sex. It might make things feel transactional. I don't know. Ask her about your sex life. This is hard, I know, but you gotta do it. She may not know she came off that way and didn't mean to or had a reason or such.

I, for example, had no idea until like two months ago in a year long relationship that my boyfriend didn't know the exact point I was orgasming. I assumed he knew, but I'm not super vocal and apparently I don't react like most of the women he's used to. So he just thought for 10 months it wasn't happening or was rarely happening when he could see he'd flat-lined me. So now, I try to as best I can, be vocal about that. I had no clue, thank goodness he finally said something so he could enjoy sex more.

One conversation, you guys could work your stuff out and enjoy the bond better,

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-07-07T22:47:29+00:00

Start moaning, guys don’t usually moan because they feel gay or something but women love it, when the guy acts like he is enjoying it like crazy. Little secret that guys with fragile masculinity won’t take, because their ego makes them stupid like that.
Bite and lick her ears and neck, suck them. Don’t stop it. Those areas are super sensitive to women and can get them to orgasm without penetration.

Majestic_Meal_5655 · 2022-07-07T19:38:34+00:00

Dude if you guys fuxxin all the time is gonna get old. Space it out, create a sense of mystery around you again.

Ambitious-Ice2357 · 2022-07-08T00:29:49+00:00

Sounds like there’s a lack of communication on both ends.

Elbynerual · 2022-07-08T06:40:08+00:00

Wrong sub

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Date	July 7, 2022 5:42 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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