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[–]cobraCL 4 years ago [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link
Nooo, your perspective is everything here!
Eye contact is an incredibly powerful tool to build attraction and curiosity, but the way it's executed depends 100% on your inner-confidence.
A person who feels attractive and knows his worth will gaze confidently at a girl across the room, catch her eye, prolonge it for a bit then disengage. It's a bold move, and an attractive one. I've personally eaten this up, especially when combined with a naughty smirk.
A guy who lacks confidence and is scared will notice the girl, and quickly look away as if he has been caught doing something 'wrong'. Unfortunately girls do pick up on body language (tense, protective, closed). If you appear nervous and on high alert, they will absorb that and sometimes be on high alert too. That innate anxiety/stress is why some girls find a behaviour 'creepy', but accept it as non-threatening or charming if it is presented with warmth and confidence.
None of us were there so we unfortunately can't tell you if the girl found this positive or negative, but start working on your self esteem.
For you to present the way you want to and capture girls' attention with your presence, you need to believe that you are attractive, believe that you are a catch and let go of shame for showing visual interest in a girl. That sexual energy is not a bad thing, own it. Remember that if you present yourself as high value, MANY other people (not just women) will adopt that attitude about you too. We have so much power in setting the narrative of how we are perceived.
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[–]cobraCL 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You're welcome! All the best and don't give up 😊 facing scary shit is the best way to build confidence. Good luck!
[–]CompetitionFair7686 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
If you chose to believe you are creepy, then your behaviour will adjust to that belief and you will creep out girls.
If you chose to belief that you are making the girls day and are just having fun, then your behaviour will adjust to that belief and you will come across as fun and outgoing, not creepy.
So it all depends on how you feel about yourself that will dictate how your interactions go with girls
[–]Competitive-Bill-612 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Grow a pair and talk to her and her friends, what you’re experiencing right now is Approach Anxiety, which all beginners and i can assure you advanced Cassanovas have as well.
Honestly, what is the worse that can happen? She turns you down or you misunderstood? Woohoo you can probably walk down a couple of blocks and see another hottie.
Beauty is common but you are not, king. 🎩
[–]burakbenxd 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Grow a pair of balls pussy and talk to her...
[–]Miat361-9er 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is good advice.
[–]Key-Western7803 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sorry man but if you’re calling your own self creepy then you probably are
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