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[–][deleted] 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She is giving a head to someone else
[–]FutureBannedAccount2 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I think she was just in it for the sex and once she got that she wasn’t interested in seeing you more. Either that or you’re weren’t good at it
[–]Professional-Sign510 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I agree it could be either of those, but a few clues tell me the sex wasn’t good. It says she gave him head, but nothing about him reciprocating and then he says it was “tough to get it in,” but in another comment he says he’s average size. That tells me she wasn’t wet enough. I’m thinking he didn’t put any effort into her being ready. Also “had sex for a little bit” so they stopped because it wasn’t going well (or he finished really quickly). Either way, as a woman this sounds like bad sex to me.
[–]entericalamity 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Could be she feels like you're rushing her to have sex again. But honestly who knows what emotions she is feeling. Best not to try and guess because you'll almost certainly be wrong. No point being petty about it either. I'd just say "cool, lmk when you're free again" and then forget about it. She may respond again, she may not. Who cares. If you guys do end up communicating again, let her be the one to initiate.
I've had the same type of shit happen where the girl will hit me up again weeks or even months later. Happens sometimes.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Oh yeah I’ve had this even years later. Yeah maybe I did do something but I don’t think I was acting needy. I was on the fence with saying “ok just let me know when you’re free no worries” but don’t really like that. I feel like I gave her some options to hang out and just don’t buy that someone is busy a whole week weekend. And if she really is it’s not much effort to just suggest a new date. Am I expecting too much?
[–]entericalamity 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
From the sounds of it, she definitely does not want to hang out with you this week. Why? Who the fuck knows. Why hasn't she had sex in a long time? Maybe she had some trauma and wanted to try having sex again to see how she felt, and it made her feel bad about herself. The list of reasons why she could potentially not want to see you again are limitless. If you were my friend IRL I'd tell you to move on and forget about it.
Also my rule of thumb is if I genuinely don't think I did anything wrong and she starts being weird, I assume the chick has some weird problem that I'd rather not even find out about lol.
[–]I_Am_Vexcel 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I agree with this guy. The best thing you can give anyone is YOUR time. You gave her the opportunity, she decided not to take it. Then employ the takeaway strategy. The tennis ball is on her side of the court. It’s up to her to hit it back
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She gave it a few days to process her own feelings and she’s decided she’s not giving you any more of the cookie. Move on.
[–]Needaboutreefiddy 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (12 children) | Copy Link
You struggled to get it in? Maybe you're too big for her. Fortunate problem lol. Just ignore her and find someone else to stick it in. If you leave it alone and she's interested she'll text you down the road.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link
Yeah I’m not bragging. I’m average size I guess she just was really tight and hadn’t done it in awhile but weird.
And thanks I’m leaning on the side of just not responding at all.
[–]Needaboutreefiddy 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
It's the right call, it kinda stings at first but you just gotta remind yourself that you are the man making the call not to waste your time with her. I give people one strike and move on as far as shitty texting goes. I wouldn't worry to much about a reason tho, literally could be anything and a lot of the time doesn't have anything to do with you.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
Yeah. Trying not to think too much into it. Probably will be a good chance she reaches out again. Not really sure. Kinda sucks cause she was pretty cute but oh well.
[–]Needaboutreefiddy 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
There are lots of cute girls out there, make sure you are willing to let go of a cute one who doesn't have the other important things. She honestly may just need time to process having sex if it's been a long time. Don't wanna harass too much and seem desperate. The less you care the more she will wonder why you don't care and desire you. Good luck!
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Thanks one last thing. To play devils advocate what could be so detrimental about messaging her back and saying “ok no problem let me know when you’re free and we will hang out”? I also like I said believe not responding is probably best but just trying to think if that text would result in anything positive
[–]Needaboutreefiddy 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
You ever try to pet a cat that doesn't wanna be pet? You walk at it with you hand out and it runs off 3 feet and stares at you, do it again it moves again.. probably further away. But if you just say whatever and sit on the couch and ignore it may jump up in your lap after a while. It may not. Women act like said cat all the time lol
My point is, if she's being weird it doesn't really get you anywhere and just like when you finally get too close to the car for it's comfort she may move a few feet even further away.
This one is for you to read but I have chased away the cat many times. She gave you a window of unavailability. Check back with her after that window and just try a "hey free for dinner tomorrow?" Or something
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Ah so you do recommend messaging her next week? Or you still don’t advise that but if I’m going to do it wait til then?
[–]Needaboutreefiddy 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I think if you decide you want to message her I would move on from her mentally now either way. You don't want to be counting down the days and she may just not respond anyways which is disappointing. If you are still interested it's fine to message her later, but just try to feel as neutral about it as possible so if she ghosts you you already accepted it? Make sense?
I highly suggest finding someone to flirt with in the mean time. Just having someone to interact with can really help us see if we liked the other person or were just lonely. Women always have this and men not nearly as much so they have that advantage always
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Yeah. I’ve been setting up other dates. I guess I just never had had a woman act like that after sleeping with them so it left me pretty confused.
[–]ozzzy83 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Well, girls/women usually get disappointed if the sex was bad. But if you were good at it, and didn't mess up something later, then I would just wait for her to text you, because you already reached out. The way it works is that most of the time, a girl/woman should be chasing you after sex, that is how it works, then they start to wonder if you want something more.
[+][deleted] -6 points-5 points-4 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
She isnt interested. Second thing; Why are you dating a 30 year old woman?? You are 28, hellloooo!
Yeah. I wouldn’t even consider it dating just wanted something casual. Thanks. Any reason you think she lost interest?
[–]giggity23 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
What a stupid reason to not date someone
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