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[–]DestinyChitChat 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Your self awareness is great and the first step in making changes. Nice job man.
Remember you can always analyze later, not in the moment. Whenever you get caught in those thoughts just STOP. PAUSE. And think...what do I want to do for fun? Something that doesn't require her presence. Then do that thing. Make it about you having a good time and your energy will be contagious and she will have a good time.
It's better to always ASSUME attraction no matter what. Doesn't mean be a stubborn jerk that can't catch a clue, but it does help with you naturally choosing the best responses in any moment if you start with a mindset like that.
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[–]DestinyChitChat 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Here is a list of things to keep in mind that should help. Adopt as many as you are comfortable with.
You are “OK” as you are right now
You are comfortable in a position of leadership
You have come to terms with your sexuality
You have visions and goals outside of meeting women
You bring an incredible positive energy into any social interaction
You are unattached to outcomes and don’t get upset easily
You have strict rules about what behavior you do or do not accept from other people
You are interested in human psychology
You are playful
You are comfortable in social situations
You have a deep knowingness that women want you
[–]Complicated_Business 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I don't get you younger cats. If a girl checks her phone I'm like, "Who texted ya?" If it's a friend or something, I can bounce off of that, asking how they met, what do they like about them...that sorta stuff. But if I get something like, "No text, just checking something." I'll end everything in five minutes. She's not interested, and I'm not interested in trying to convince her otherwise.
[–]LessResponsibility35 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You miss every shot you don’t take You never know, until you know. Don’t stress yourself out , leave that to the women . Be the man and do what your subconscious is telling you. ignore the resentment, and negative feelings that come when you’re with her . She’s there for a reason so you must be doing something right , a lot of women are very understanding but only so many times until she decides to no longer deal with you. Be different, be you.
Also, don’t move too fast. And I’m speaking In reference to how you speak, to when you’re opening her door etc. your subconscious has all the answers.. It’s just kinda hard to hear em sometime
[–]Ambitious-Ice2357 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Do you like art? Would you go to an art gallery by yourself if you didn’t have a date? If you answered yes to both of these questions, then you did something that you typically enjoy and she didn’t. If you answered no, you have no idea what you’re doing. If you want to try it again, just come clean and tell her you fucked up. Tell her you would like to take her out again and find out what she likes before you plan anything.
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[–]Ambitious-Ice2357 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Ok, so if art is something you’re passionate about and she doesn’t share your appreciation for art and has no interest in it, or it’s boring to her then you might want to reconsider your interest in her.
[–]Ambitious-Ice2357 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You just did learn from it.
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