(23F) How do you decide who to chose as a partner if there's multiple good options?

Liberaler · 2022-04-11T16:10:50+00:00

Even from a demisexual/conservative position you are able to give your options a try. This will help you to decide. Spend more time one on one. Allow them to do things with you, that are slighlty more indimate or romatic, e.g. hugging for a little bit longer than usual, spending more time one on one, holding hands, etc

Doing that will allow you to explore your own feelings better. Also, if they are good friends you can tell them about your feeling of not being sure (yet).

If you are looking for a long-term partner you should always look for the following three things: 1. good character traits and values, 2. common life goals 3. general attraction and physical chemistry. These are the foundations.

Good luck!

norwegiandoggo · 2022-04-11T20:02:08+00:00

There are many philosophies around this. You could just choose who you have the most feelings for. Or you could go for the person that's logically the best match. Sometimes they're the same person, sometimes not. And no matter who you choose things can go well or they can go badly. I guess if I have to recommend anything it's try to pick someone that you have feelings for that is also compatible with you for the long-term. This means you agree on which city you want to live, one of you is not suddenly going to move for example, you agree on if you want children or not, getting married or not. The big things

cass2769 · 2022-04-12T04:01:33+00:00

Would you be open to or interested in dating more than one person at a time? I know some demi folks don’t like that but others are ok with it.

Would these potential partners be ok with a non exclusive relationship? Not recommended if these multiple people will have to see each other socially bc that could get awkward

po3b3ar · 2022-04-12T04:03:30+00:00

Pros and cons list. Support system(maintenance of positive friendships/relationships) family stability, life balance, emotional maturity, physical/mental/social attraction/compatibility, ability to maintain own health, values, priorities, etc.

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-04-11T16:24:16+00:00

Choose?

WilmerKingSavage · 2022-04-12T15:48:53+00:00

Cute

Quirky_Tale_9739 · 2022-04-12T16:34:58+00:00

Well this requires to dive deep into pros and cons. I can help you with the details tho.

Title	(23F) How do you decide who to chose as a partner if there's multiple good options?
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Date	April 11, 2022 3:47 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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