I asked her out but she didn’t give me a straight answer. Should I still pursue?

Visualize_ · 2022-04-10T18:35:52+00:00

You are a texting buddy. Move on

Impressive_Sport_713 · 2022-04-10T18:28:21+00:00

No. Once the invitation has been made. Leave it at that. Dont text over it. It needs to be the last text she has. It emphasizes that shes a flake. And that the invitation is there if she wants it!

Girls who dont respond to plans arent interested. Theyll happily talk about other stuff so much as long as date plans arent discussed. Or theyll even change subjects. Just all validating for attention. Make excuses, school, work, family events...

I know all their tricks. Shes a flake

Glapierre · 2022-04-10T19:34:35+00:00

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Nullroute127 · 2022-04-10T21:51:38+00:00

It sounds like you went straight for the hard close without laddering up.

When the vibe is good you should START to make plans. This can start very soft with things like, "you seem fun but also trouble. If we were to meet I feel like I'd need to update my insurance."

If it feels like it's very good you can do a soft with more direction, "If I were to propose drinks and witty banter with good company in the near future, how would that sound?"

From there if you get a good response you can ladder soft still, "How are your weekday evenings?"

The glory of the soft close is you can test if the vibe is right, without losing your power.

When your plans are that specific from the start, it can sometimes feel to the girl like it came from left field. Also, non-specific (either in date/time and/or activity) plans are very easy for girls to agree to. However, subconsciously what they've done is agree to go out with you at SOME point. It would be incongruent for them to not see you. So, when you drop the actual, definite plans, they're somewhat precommitted to it provides they don't have another conflict.

If you get a girl to agree to soft plans, and she also gives you her general schedule, it would be incongruent for them to not to agree to definite plans that fit those parameters.

It sounds like mind games, and it is. However, it also what you need to do to deliver the girl a good experience. It works because it's how women like to communicate vs being some underhanded tactic.

sixinchsierra · 2022-04-11T00:15:46+00:00

If it’s not a yes it’s a no

Title	I asked her out but she didn’t give me a straight answer. Should I still pursue?
Author	Frissys
Upvotes	1
Comments	5
Date	April 10, 2022 6:21 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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