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MegaManXanax · 2022-03-07T17:07:28+00:00

You don’t owe her a friendship and idk if she’s making that much of a big deal over it that’s weird honestly. If she wants you in her life that badly then she should date you. Kinda feels like she’s keeping you on the back burner. I don’t think you’re being needy either, the needy thing to do would be to stay friends with her.

MO_drps_knwldg · 2022-03-07T17:42:02+00:00

I don’t think you did the wrong thing in asking for distance, but just put a positive spin on it. Tell her you didn’t want to hurt her, but it’s also dishonest and harmful to pretend to want to be just friends when that’s not what you truly want. Tell her you respect her enough to be upfront with her about that.

Those type of situations lead to jealousy and bitterness and will ultimately break a friendship anyway. It’s usually messier to an being upfront form the beginning.

Tell her you truly wish the best for her. After that, if your feelings have truly faded and you want just friendship, re-establish contact if you want. She might be open or might tell you to pound sand, but at least you stated your intentions upfront.

I wouldn’t beat yourself up. You essentially did the right thing

garysen95 · 2022-03-08T03:56:41+00:00

Hey OP! I am in the exactly same situation as yours with the exact same storyline. When I asked her out, she said she needed 2-3 months more to move on from her ex. The other day we went to a club, and it didn’t even take her 10 minutes to dump me and go and make out with some guy who’s probably a druggy. I just couldn’t take it anymore and gone no contact. It hurts man, but we gotta move on!

Baron_Semedi_ · 2022-03-07T16:49:56+00:00

The way i see it, you have no choice but to leave the friendship. Staying in it when it's not really what you want is inauthentic. Only way you can go back to is if you are genuinely over her. You can't stay out of guilt or obligation. If you stay you know it's out of hope that she will be with you someday, and that's not fair to her.

yobro_2521 · 2022-03-08T14:38:22+00:00

Bro it's really difficult to stay as friends with a girl we like. I've had 3 or 4 experiences like that. From my experience - girls feel like they don't want to date the guy they thought of as "just friends". They decide what you are to them (a friend/or a guy they can have a relationship) within the first few days of getting to know you. So as soon as YOU get to know a girl you like doesn't want to even TRY and see if they can a relationship with you as equally as you try for her, then just end it with her and move on.

_____Skip_____ · 2022-03-08T00:07:34+00:00

First off don't take advice from single people ever..

Have you ever seen the movie Back to the Future? Only thing you can do is take her from dude by sweeping her off her feet but as someone experienced in this she will never fully be committed to you EVER. Your not different and it has nothing to do with it. She needs to be verified with a blue check mark and once it's done on to the next. DON'T WAIST YOUR TIME move on.

Note I am going on a personal experience that I was with a girl for 15 years and watched her cheat on me many times and I took her from my best friend because I thought I was different and could turn a hoe into a housewife WRONG After all that crap we went through to make it work I catch her with a pos ugly small dick Co worker that has a wife and a kid from the great job of Dominos. I was bringing in plenty of money and treated her like her shit didn't stink and it was lined in gold.

YOU SIR ARE NOW THE BIGGEST LOOSER talking about myself at the time.

Do what I did. Lower your standards a little to someone who is crazy about you and lift them up with support, influence, honesty and positivity. And make someone into your dream girl. You will be happy for the rest of your life.

Now listen and you will succeed or not and get screwed when your old but no I one to blame but yourself because you were told. You can't turn a hoe into a housewife PERIOD

Careful-Evening-5187 · 2022-03-07T21:53:32+00:00

Did you perhaps do or say something inappropriate that upset her?

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