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RoguePuppy913 · 2022-02-03T21:01:27+00:00

It can't be avoided, welcome to mammalian life. You won't get dates if you don't approach the person that attracts you. Male, female, other, we all have to experience that awkward first approach and the walk shame when turned down. You just have to deal with it

2022-02-03T20:52:35+00:00

Either continue approaching or don't approach anyone anymore.

I personally don't think you should stop doing something that makes certain people uncomfortable, as those people don't represent everyone else in their demographic. Some women like being approached and some don't, so either look for the ones that do and make the others uncomfortable, or approach none of them and miss out on the ones that would've been fine with it.

humbledrumble · 2022-02-03T21:10:00+00:00

they get hit on/approached all the time.

that girls get hit on all the time, especially the hot ones.

See, I keep getting this conflicting things told. Other places I'm told that they don't get approached often because everyone thinks they're taken or something along those lines.

And now here you say they get pretty much swarmed by guys and are even uncomfortable about it.

Seems strange

JacobMoogberg69 · 2022-02-03T21:14:17+00:00

Go to places where women go to meet men.

humbledrumble · 2022-02-03T23:14:21+00:00

they want to just live their life as usual without having to worry about some random hitting on her

Sounds like these women you're talking to aren't interested in a relationship or sex. So these are exactly the type of women you who you don't need to worry about their opinions -- they are the women who you aren't looking for.

Ignore their rejections and find the women who are open to relationship/sex and who will be excited you've approach them

cormacru999 · 2022-02-04T02:22:45+00:00

Women have to deal with men all the time. Men hit on them on online, total strangers, sending them a personal message. They get hit on while they are working, from coworkers & customers. They get hit on while they are walking. Girls that may not be conventionally attractive, also get hit on, fat girls, quirky girls, etc, but in those cases, men get even angrier when they say no, because men feel like they aren't hot enough to say no. Women get cat called & hit on as they walk down the street. They get hit on by the neighbor. This is often called the male gaze, & if you listen to women, read what they share online, you'll discover that women often realize the male gaze exists, that they are being sexualized at alarmingly young ages, anywhere from 5 & up. Women these days talk about it openly, they write articles, blogs & books. Women that are older start sharing their experiences for younger women. One woman online will post an experience & then all of the women that see that post, will add their experiences.

They don't want to be approached for romance in every space they are in. It feel aggressive, pushy, arrogant, & scary. There are spaces for romance, where women step into, knowing that's what that space is for, like a dating site. They know that's what happens there. Some places, like a bar or club, can be a space to approach a woman, as long as you back off if they say no, in any terms. Men rant about how awful women are, but the majority of women often feel really guilty telling even a stranger no thanks. And men take advantage of that all the time. Use those spaces, be nice, leave them alone if you're not sure.

viperman1111 · 2022-02-04T00:40:40+00:00

Don’t you have any male friends to ask? Women are the worst to ask about women.

Impressive_Sport_713 · 2022-02-03T21:03:51+00:00

Almost everything you wrote is not true. Girls dont get hit on dozens of times running errands. Guys will just stare and stay silent. Dont know who is telling you different but its not true

Lastly, a lot of girls aren't interested in what youre selling. Nor looking. So its gonna be mostly blow outs. The few ones that like it & enjoy it are gonna be the ones that exchange

JearBear_3 · 2022-02-04T00:36:28+00:00

I think the balance between hot girls and hot girls getting hit on is most guys want a reaction or something from the girl ie: her number or sex.

I haven’t grown up with many “hot chicks” and still get a little anxious around them. Besides not wanting anything in return, I always hear that the best way to go about interacting with them is either going for it and treating em like your sister, or don’t even approach/ talk to em at all. Just keep it light and cool and see what happens ie: high hopes but no to less expectations

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