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Atarangivibes · 2022-01-01T20:58:55+00:00

For me personally I would want the person I’m about to be intimate with completely comfortable and at ease because it always makes sex better. And if they are not cool with no being used by both of us at any stage during sex and respecting that then that’s a red flag. It’s about mutual pleasure not singular pleasure. It’s definitely a conversation that should be had before sex and not during sex coz thats .. awkward lol I would casually just slip it in during those flirty sexy text/chat convos you tend to have when you meet someone you are interested in

creativeoutlaw44 · 2022-01-02T03:00:36+00:00

Double standards suck, but you've got to deal with them.

For the woman that kept riding your dick like a dildo, I think I would have physically made her stop. As in grab her by the waist or make eye contact and just stop her from moving up and down and saying "Hey, I can't do this anymore. I'm done. If you're that close then I'll make sure you get yours another way." That's a pretty fucked up move on her part, and it made me wince to read it. Her totally cold attitude is also unacceptable, and I don't fault you for breaking contact.

I think it's assumed that consent goes from female --> male simply based on physical power dynamics, even if that's not always true. Women are many times in situations where they're at a physical disadvantage and it helps to be mentally on the same page with a sexual partner, which is less true with guys.

I'd venture to say that most women have simply never thought about consent issues going from male --> female unless they're in the BDSM community or other places where that's explicitly talked about.

appmanga · 2022-01-01T21:46:39+00:00

"Dear Penthouse:".

ChicoBrillo · 2022-01-01T23:00:28+00:00

I hate the double standard. I’ve also had uncomfortable experiences with sex but we’re just expected as men to always be down to have sex and to be walking dildos.

I like your idea of the wrist slapping. I’ll have to try that. I’m always very vigilant about consent, and it’s not always reciprocated

greekkosmoss · 2022-01-02T00:20:00+00:00

These girls suck! I think it's cool to ask and to be asked in return, no shame in that.

Tryingtokeepup3 · 2022-01-02T01:43:37+00:00

I think it’s good to ask consent, but you may also be over- reading the first situation as a regular occurrence and it’s throwing the women off. Not to say it doesn’t happen, it just doesn’t happen enough for it to immediately click on our minds.

I think there are opportunities for you to revoke or demand consent, and maybe it’ll help to read the room more? Not saying you’re wrong for wanting consent, but part of “seduction” is to have some swag or finesse behind your action. Not be so analytical or logical. For example, you could lighten the room by telling a joke, “ my last girl wouldn’t stop riding after I came, I almost had to throw her off of me. It gets pretty painful after orgasming. So I love a woman who can respect my body and vice versa .” If you are feeling some ptsd after the first incident, which is sounds like, maybe seek therapy?

And having open conversations that feel safe to you are very important. So take it as a good weeder for women you wouldn’t want to date long term. That’s ultimately the goal amd shouldn’t be taken lightly.

agileipa · 2022-01-02T03:32:42+00:00

I don’t know how to respond without OP getting offended but I think it’s kinda selfish, this is just my opinion and my style so totally understand if it’s not yours. Most guys prefer doggie or cowgirl like you have explained because the angle is ideal. So I totally understand finishing too soon in that position and sex can be painful if you keep going. But did she get off first? I have been in that exact situation and she was starting to climax but we had to stop. However, she has already came a few times so stoping wasn’t a problem. I think if you make sure she finishes first (there is a great book out there with the same name) you will never have to ask for reverse consent or whatever thing you’re trying to do.

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