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[–]justmuro 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Can I ask you if you’ve put 100% into making you the best version of yourself for 1-2 years with dedication?
I got to a place where girls or game or whatever doesn’t even cross my mind but it’s a natural thing when I go out.
How did I get here? I went from first year in college unable to talk to… guys :( and dedicated everything to myself. Physical health, mental health, and social ability. Rather than expecting getting to chad fucking everyone status set achievable goals. Believe it or not I had a goal of “talk to 1 guy in every class” not make friends with them just good mornings. Went from that to make 1 friend to talk to 1 girl in every class. From there I built it to make a female friend and etc… The time frame I took was per every semester change my goals.
Don’t beat yourself up your not missing out on anything or behind. When you love yourself and value yourself more than anything the rest will come with steps. You don’t need a woman to be the reason and center of your life nor does she want to be. She is just an addition to your already wonderful life you built.
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[–]BurnItDownSR 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
cold approach doesn’t really work.
What do you think would happen if you tested boxing the way you tested cold approach?
Remember, with cold approach you aren't approaching and flirting with a dummy or a partner that's playing along and making it doable for you, you're constantly doing the real thing over and over. It would be like getting into real boxing matches with opponents who want to knock you the fuck out from first day you step into a boxing gym.
Maybe one of the reasons you feel so down is because you have unrealistic expectations for how quickly you'd be able to get the hang of cold approach and unlike boxing, it's really hard to delude yourself with cold approach because you don't have a trainer who gives you free shots and showers you with praise, you're doing real thing, with realistic difficulty and the reality of how much you suck at it constantly smacks you in the face.
Cold approach works...just like boxing works - Eventually...and after shit ton of practice and failure, the failure's just more obvious with cold approach.
I know it sucks to constantly fail so do what you need to do to recover before you get back on the horse but make sure you really are getting back on the horse otherwise all your anguish will have been for nothing.
[–]IGetBoredSometimes23 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
It's okay to quit the game for a while and work on yourself.
From your post history it seems like you need to have more friends to lean on, but Covid can make that a pain. Have you gotten the vaccine? That can help to ease fears.
If you can get out with a low risk of exposure, I'd recommend finding things that you enjoy and see if there's like minded people in a group where you can participate. Good luck, buddy.
[–]Alive-Doughnut2345 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thanks bro. I’m double vaccinated yeah. I do have a couple close friends. I’ll see what I can do I guess. The FOMO doesn’t help but hey, I should have thought about that earlier
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