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[–]chriipping 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
"1 bang is better than no bang" -Abraham Lincoln
[–]elmsfordays 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lol
[–]blatentsweat 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
No, everything you fuck helps your dick muscle improve.
[–]Consistent-Luck 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Slippery slope. Don’t become dependent on her for your needs and don’t catch feelings. I had a girl that I was way out her league and she was my booty call...any time I wanted to hook up, she was there. Midnight, 1am, 3am, 4am, it didn’t matter I called and she was ready to please me. It made me really lazy so I was a lot less proactive on trying to meet girls that I actually wanted a relationship with. Watch out though I started to catch feels and started to miss her once I cut it off.
[–]elmsfordays 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Good point
[–][deleted] 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
I don't think having a superiority complex to begin with predisposes one to further lowering self esteem. For anyone. But I also think grading people, and treating some as less than, is wrong. Beauty is highly subjective.
How about you don't sleep with women you feel are beneath you. Save them the trouble of poor treatment. Or, conversely, you could sleep with people but just appreciate their time and see them as a person. Have a lot more fun that way! Both parties. 😁
[–]elmsfordays -4 points-3 points-2 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Look how judgy you are on how i treat people, fuck off simp
[–][deleted] 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
I'm female. And I am merely suggesting that you might have a better time if you didn't stress over an arbitrary grading system. Of course don't sleep with people who are dirty, or really really scary looking. We all have some kind of preference. That's ok.
But it's not gonna lower your self esteem to step slightly outside of your preference, now and again. You meet interesting people and have new experiences, that way. As long as both parties don't take shit too seriously, and stay kind... It's not a big issue.
[–]elmsfordays 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
You don't know what it's like to have a dick
Scary looking? Lol
[–][deleted] 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
True. I don't. But the feeling of wondering if one can do better is a universal thing. I think most people wonder what's out there, and what the highest level of achievement they can reach would be. Because we feel it's a reflection on our standing.
It's not, though. Sometimes people who aren't the most fit (preferences are a spectrum) can be the sexiest, or have a good vibe to them. That's all. You could try some things out, and not lose self esteem or standing.
[–]elmsfordays -4 points-3 points-2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Have you ever felt embarrassed being seen with someone?
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Nope. Because it's totally acceptable to stay within your preferences. I have gone to the farthest end of them, pushing the limit. But never anyone who made me embarrassed. No one needs to take it that far. ☺️
Sometimes it's not looks, but a shitty personality or hygiene, or whatever. Just something that makes a prospective partner gross.
[–]OkGuidance4639 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
No offence but you are a female this doesn’t apply to you.
[–]Both_Upstairs_8973 -3 points-2 points-1 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You're fucking idiot, get out of this SUB, this man is here for advice not some gender equality bullshit lecture. Or some emotional shit, we had enough of you women ruining this sub
[–]Both_Upstairs_8973 -2 points-1 points0 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Fuck off with the emotional shit. , we all rate people who the fuck are you dumb bitch
[–]lorlormarie 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (21 children) | Copy Link
Ummmmm, wow ~ is there a value scale I can reference to know where I fall as a girl?
[–]elmsfordays 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (18 children) | Copy Link
It's less meaningful as a girl cause you only need 1 stat to get options: be fit
You could have no money or personality and be bored with all your options
On the flip side a dude could be fit and go completely under the radar of women without other skills/value
[+]lorlormarie -6 points-5 points-4 points 4 years ago (17 children) | Copy Link
It’s not all about looks ~ Beauty is in the eye of the beholder ....
[–]Both_Upstairs_8973 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
Do you see value, in a broke man, 5.2 feet who is fat unemployed , in debt and has nothing going on in his life,. Will you suck his dick?
[–]lorlormarie -2 points-1 points0 points 4 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
If I loved him I would. That’s my whole point to OP, not always about looks or money for EVERYONE (seems like it is for most here ... )
[–]Both_Upstairs_8973 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
You may try to sound very caring but you're not look at your life bitch, have you ever loved a man like that you fucking idiot, look at the man you dated and examine your fucking life, double standard dumb shit .. We men rate females on looks, and women view men as success objects,
Enough with your emotional base argument shit, cause you say this only to make your self feel good, you never will and have never followed this
[–]lorlormarie 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
You have no idea anything about my life ... Or what I man I love looks like. I wish you well ~
[–]Both_Upstairs_8973 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
If you actually followed what you rant about, you'll have being with the guy who took your virginity, you idiot.
[–]lorlormarie 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Maybe I am? Why are you name calling? The OP said something about sleeping with women who has less value than he did. I asked how he judges their value, he said woman only need to be “fit”. I find that so confusing. So if her body is fit, but crooked teeth, lots of acne, she still attractive and of value? So what if a girl is chunky, but really pretty, clear skin, perfect teeth. She is lesser value cuz not so fit? Chunky girl could be so much more sexy in bed but OP wouldn’t know it. When it comes to sex/seduction, IN MY OPINION, it can be more about just looks! Plus, some people like chunky. So the “fat man” you referenced? I find him way more attractive than a guy that is rock hard. That is just me ... again, I see now that is not the norm and most people only care about looks.
[–]Brakb 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago* (3 children) | Copy Link
Don't act like there's not some sort of hierarchy in looks..
I don't know you, but there's guys girls want and guys would be OK with dating and then there's guys you wouldn't touch with a pole.
[–]lorlormarie1 point 4 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Ya I mean I’m getting all that from this post.... definitely been schooled ....
[–]Brakb2 points 4 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
I think the thing women often underestimate is sometimes guys don't feel like being in a committed relationship but still got sexual needs.
For girls it's easy to hook up, for guys it often means lowering your standards quite a bit. You'd have sex with girls you aren't really got the hots for but it's better than nothing. This makes you feel undesirable however, as it's also a reminder the girls you are more attracted to don't feel you're sexually attractive enough to hump with as easily without some sort of commitment.
That is interesting.. I appreciate the mature dialog ..
[–]elmsfordays 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Go back to twoXchromosomes
[–]Astro129129 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
All a MAN cares about INITIALLY, is how you look. Before you introduce yourself, your LOOKS are what piques the interest of a man. The personality check comes after the introduction, but looks are your resumé as a woman, and your resumé gets you the job interview. Any man or woman who denies that is LYING to themselves and others.
Beauty can be in the eye of the beholder, but he ain’t gonna wanna behold nothin if you aren’t physically attractive to him.
[–]lorlormarie -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Ehhhh, I’m sorry you feel like relationships work this way .... some definitely do, but not all of them ....
[–]Infinite_Relation_86 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If a guy approached you, that physical check already occured.
If a guy responds to a girl, that check has already occured.
[–]elmsfordays 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Take your gender equality bullshit elsewhere. The whole premise of this subreddit is women and men are different.
Women don't need to practice seduction, it's optional
[–]Both_Upstairs_8973 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Women are fucking ruining this sub
[–]Astro129129 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
It’s alright bro she can keep lying to herself. She practically admitted it by saying “sOmE dEfInItElY dO b-b-b-bUt NoT aLl”…. you can’t make this shit up bro.
[–]yum-truck 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah can I see it, kinda seems like we all wanna know where this si
Get the fuck out of here you dumb fuck, he's here for help
[–]Both_Upstairs_8973 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Women are ruining this sub, with there overly emotional replies,
yes you dumbfuck we rate value. We rate how pretty you are the moment we see you
[–]docbarbell 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The answer you're looking for: it depends on how you frame it. Are you getting lots of action and highly desired? Or are you settling for low hanging fruit because you can't do any better? Your call.
[–]Brakb 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I've had plenty (too many) like that. My issue is that it makes me realize how much women simp for guys that use them for sex just cause they're out of they're league.
It makes me very insecure with girls within my own league, or just those where it went differently, as I imagine them being simps for guys higher on the totem pole so to speak but not with me.
[–]m0rb33d 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
No. Self esteem has nothing to do with external factors
[–]AelfredRex 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If all you care about is who you are seen with, then you're not making love, just wanking your ego.
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