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[–]TheSunshineMan 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Truth
You can't be a pussy and get pussy, stick up for yourself, have a backbone, be opinionated.
[–]alchemischief 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
As a woman, I can say this is so true. We can detect the nice-guy routine a mile away, and it’s a huge turnoff. Of course, “nice” gestures are always welcome when they’re genuine. It’s the difference between getting a gift on your birthday vs getting a gift on a random Tuesday. The random gift feels better because it’s more genuine and it’s more of a surprise.
Women want to be surprised and we want to be challenged. There’s almost nothing sexier than having a mild disagreement, or “natural friction” as OP says, with someone you have a lot of physical chemistry with. We want a man who will stand his ground, and not sacrifice his dignity for the idea that if he’s nice he might get some. We want to feel a true connection, and we don’t want to feel like we’ve been manipulated for his own purposes.
It also tells us that you regard us highly enough not to walk away when things are difficult or weird, and you think we can hold our own in a disagreement or an argument.
TLDR: Don’t use me, challenge me. Now that’s sexy.
[–]Itype2readU 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
How do you challenge a women? I don't get it.
Im a reaaally easy guy, I also consider myself more picky than most of everyone I meet. I'm either an impossible catch and I'll let you know indirectly, and if you push it I'll be real clear and direct about it...
But fuck, when I see a girl of my taste in looks, and I talk with her for 400 seconds, I already have a pretty darn good idea of how she's like, and how smart she is and what kind of great personality she has. Strangely, Im very accurate with this but... It really does take me 400 seconds. And then im out or im all-in... So yeah, I think im losing a lot of opportunities because well, all the girls I have, I'd have them anyway if I was more of a "challenge" or a "prize to win" or just a guy that "screens them for who they are see if it fits with me". And the others well, they arent happy about it. They feel I don't know them and they don't know me, they feel used for sex because I gun towards sex a lot because that's the best fun part and I am so much into them in a short span of time.
[–]VanillaCider2021 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's a fine line. Parts of my personality are very alpha, but I also have a nice guy persona that I use to reel them in and gain trust. The problem is if you are being nice vs being needy.
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