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iambrian81 · 2021-07-22T03:49:05+00:00

Outgoing but still feminine. We might pretend to say we are attracted to Tom boys due to political correctness but we are not. Being cold is not attractive. Warm, happy and smiling are more attractive. At the end of the day, looks are extremely important. Make sure you hit the gym, have low body fat and dress fashionably intelligent. Also, men, especially older more intelligent men are attracted to intelligent. You have to be able to connect to us on varieties of deep subjects. Nothing is more of a turn off than dating an airhead.

Dutchcat1077 · 2021-07-22T02:03:50+00:00

What makes you think you’re not attractive?

nonplus86 · 2021-07-22T22:03:01+00:00

I'm super attracted to the bubbly personality type. The girl that can light up a room with her personality. Especially in the workplace. That's super attractive. Looks are important too but a great personality can make a 5 an 8 more or less.

Looks wise. Killer eyes and confidence to look me in the eye

NiNj4_C0W5L4Pr · 2021-07-22T02:45:47+00:00

The easiest personality to be charmed by and be attracted to is a friendly, open personality that is warm and inviting and easy to laugh with and get along. That personality type has zero barriers to ....anything, really. Want to go out on a date? No problem. Want to hang out? Sure! The friendlier and more open a woman is it almost feels like there is no effort to getting to know her or talk to her. However, that personality is not for the weak-ego men out there because this type of woman will be super open and friendly to other men and that could rub them the wrong way. Men gravitate towards low maintenance type women. The more hoops a woman makes a man jump through and isn't eady to please is a major turn off. Keep in mind that men feel validated by being appreciated as men for doing manly things and seeing/hearing your approval/gratitude. Make a man feel appreciated and he'll move the heavens for you. Let's delve into your directness. It can be a blessing or a curse depending on how you want to look at it. Aggressive behavior from women scares weak men. There's your blessing. You find out straight away that the guy you were interested in is not good enough (re: strong minded) for you. I would imagine that being aggressive leads you to more casual encounters than relationships? Reason i say that is that women who know what they want typically have low tolerance for what they don't want. Relationships carry a lot of those negatives that aggressive women avoid like the plague. Agressive women tend to find aggressive men which means you'll both be worried too much about getting your own needs met & very little tolerance if those needs aren't met.You could try the more subtle approach: laughing at his horrible jokes and finding reasons to touch him. Find ways to be around him and ask his opinion on things then butter up his ego. Or go old-school cornball and bake some cookies and give them to him?! As far as looks go; most men like the same standard features so it's best to have healthy shiny hair and wear flattering shirts/blouses that show off "the girls" and pants that show off the shape of the bum. This is the age we live in where men are afraid to be men for fear of reprisal. Those concerns are legit. It genuinely feels like the genders have been reversed. Women are the aggressors and men have become docile & meek. It takes much more finesse to meet women and it gets exhausting. Guys like the path of least resistance.

2021-07-22T11:00:56+00:00

My niece is not conventionally attractive, she is chubby and most men don’t give her a second look. She has a gorgeous husband who most would think is way out of her league. He was drawn to her by her sense of humour, she made him laugh by cracking a silly joke. She is someone who just lights up a room when she walks in and you always leave her company with a smile because she makes hilarious jokes. So the moral of the story be yourself. Seriously just be happy with yourself and don’t make yourself depressed trying to live up to all these claims. I would rather be with someone down to earth who didn’t think it was a criteria to look a perfect 10 but we could sit and just people watch and have a laugh together.

PsychologicalTrip328 · 2021-07-22T16:34:21+00:00

i had a gf like that and it comes a time that becomes boring to hang out with. try to improve some social skills, and be more open to do new things even proposing them would be nice.

Shanbaceball · 2021-07-22T22:26:24+00:00

All men seem to care about is boobs and butt ( bigger the better) lets not care of the health of the individual in my experience if you dont have either then your really screwed. Such a shallow world we live in

Far_Replacement6110 · 2021-07-23T00:55:03+00:00

Maybe you should try and date other women, OP, if you haven't done so yet. In my experience, lesbians and bi women tend to appreciate bluntness and sarcasm and you would probably enjoy being intimate with other women more anyway. You should probably be forget being with guys and just enjoy the pleasures of other females; it will be great and you know this to be true.

2021-07-23T05:29:34+00:00

There was this one girl I knew in college. She was pretty fit, her hair was long/healthy, but she was riddled with acne, and her hygiene wasn't great. None of that mattered, though... her personality let her turn on whoever she wanted, whenever she wanted. I could be wrong about what made her this way, but here's what I noticed:

She was incredibly relaxed, almost never visibly showing stress. She was comfortable wherever she was and whoever she was surrounded with.
She would invade everyone's personal space without asking. Everyone was her cuddle buddy, male or female. She would sit right next to me on the couch, put her head on my shoulder, then just ask about my day. Tiptoed between platonic and not-so-platonic.
All of her interactions were playful and flirty. Any positive interaction was topped off with a wink, a blown kiss, or a smile with long, drawn out eye contact.
If someone rejected her advances, she would never take it personally, to the point that she wouldn't be phased by it at all.

To me, what made her so hot is that whoever had her attention had 100% of her attention in that moment, and she always made the moment a little sexy.

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