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manisenf · 2020-03-10T19:45:36+00:00

"Do you come here often?" is relatively boring.

Thanks for that. I constantly ask chicks if they come to the cloud district often. hasn't worked so far.

BurnablesOnMondays · 2020-03-11T00:10:34+00:00

These need context.

#1 Share your passions

Share when asked, and don't speak too much. I've had dates get a bit awkward because she asked about my passions and I talked too much about them. I prefer focusing on getting her to open up about her passions so that I'm the one talking less.

#3 Don't filter yourself

More context needed, just like #1, it's possible to say too much, and you need to filter yourself from saying more than required.

#4 Assumptions instead of questions

I agree with these, but find them difficult because she will typically ask "why do you think that?" I literally have no reason for the assumption other than trying to make the conversation interesting, so that turns into an awkward point of the date for a second or two while I try to think of some bullshit answer.

#8 Describe emotions

#10 Use creative language

Directly conflict with #11 Get to the point!

emilyswokeman · 2020-03-10T21:21:48+00:00

I feel like this is very how to get a date intrested and not how to have a genuinely good date, and the thing is some of this is good advice but it not maintainable, making assumptions instead of asking isn't gonna get you beyond flirting, if you want to go beyond the date you gotta be a genuinely intresting, kind, confident person. If you're just following these shortcuts to fronting that it isnt gonna do much after an hour or 2.

asiandawgshy · 2020-03-10T17:43:25+00:00

Thank you so much bc I label myself as the nice guy so this is helpful !

TheManWithThreePlans · 2020-03-10T21:10:11+00:00

I disagree with a lot of this.

I disagree with this because I pretty much don't even want to talk about myself on a date unless there's a commonality I can share a story on.
I agree with this, but being different can be as simple as being non reactive. I've been told that it's hot how i seem like I genuinely don't give a fuck about anything and I'm always calm and relaxed, even if we're talking about shit that gets most guys clutching their water bottles, like her favorite sexual positions etc.
I agree to an extent. Don't hide your sense of humor, but a filter is necessary. A successful date isn't about what you do right, it's about what you don't do wrong.
Disagree completely. The majority of my dates are questions. The only difference is that I lead the questions deeper into a topic and then find a good point to segue into another topic I want her to tell me about.
Agree.
Disagree completely. Argue with your friends, don't argue with your date. If she says something I disagree with, I don't pretend to agree, I just move to a different topic. You want your frame to be collobarative, not combative.
Agree.
Agree. But then again, I don't tell stories that often. I start opening up more when she's more of a constant (aka we've had sex a few times).
STRONGLY disagree. I only share my opinion if it's a commonality. If it isn't a commonality, this creates a combative frame and isn't helping me whatsoever.
Agree.
Just learn how to tell a story. I've told stories that go on for 10 minutes and the chick is enthralled the entire time. Some people can tell a story that lasts a minute and the chick is already wondering when it'll end.
All of my first dates are just a single drink at a bar. It's cheaper and it's rare she doesn't want a second date. Doing activities is fine if you're boring and need help to up the entertainment factor.
Agreed
The only pull I'll do from a date is to my place. If I'm not getting the vibe that's going to happen, the date will end after an hour as originally planned and we'll pick it up during the second date. Ain't nobody got time to be on these long ass dates.
Agree.

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