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[–]burnerlikegasoline 3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
No it's not bad but you're not here to be good or bad. Do what feels right. For example, is it because you actually like one of the girls and not the other ones? Might just want to take away focus from the other ones if that's what you're feeling.
[–]AlwaysLearningWork 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's not cheating, but, I'd still be careful juggling that many balls in the air.
One of my female friends had a boy she was seeing. They weren't exclusive or anything, but she very much intended they take it there eventually. They had made out, they were having sex, and well, she was thinking that maybe in a few weeks time, they'd have a talk or something.
But nope. He was seeing another girl. Same time. Also having sex with her. My friend got really angry and upset, and decided to stop seeing him. She said while it wasn't cheating, it might as well have been, and she couldn't take it any further with someone who wouldn't take her seriously after all that.
Now from a guy's perspective, you're not doing anything wrong here. But some girls will be upset and hurt if they're opening up to you sexually and emotionally, and you still have other girls on the side. The idea that girls "love a guy who sees multiple women" is just not neccesarily true. I think it depends on the girl's values and upbringing too.
I had a stint of time where I saw 2 girls at the same time, and I quickly realized it felt pretty shit (It didn't feel like cheating, but it felt like I was leading one of them on). So I broke it off with one of them, and eventually the other girl found out, and while she was upset, she took it pretty well overall. Not that the relationship lasted, but yeah, I was still learning a lot during this time, spending time with girls that weren't really good for me.
I think to summarize, it's not cheating, but people will react differently to it. If I were you, if you want a LTR with any of them (And you should know that by now, if any of them are really your thing) you should consider if the others are worth it. Now in the end, if all the girls get upset and leave because of it, in the end everything will be fine. You'll find other girls, since you seem like you don't have a problem with women overall. But high quality, LTR material girls are far between, and sometimes you gotta just decide to bet on one. Because if it fails, you can always move and find someone else, but if it succeeds, you'll have yourself a girl you picked yourself, who will hopefully be good for you.
Depends on what you want I guess.
[–]LuvUnconditionally 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I might be the unpopular opinion here (please don't penalize me), but I believe that we should treat others how we would like to be treated. If you found out that these girls were seeing other men and not telling you about it, are you going to be okay with it? The problem with situations like these is that I firmly believe men and women should be upfront from day one. If you plan to see multiple people, say so. Let the other person decide whether they want to be a part of this scenario. Some men and women might catch feelings for you sooner than expected if there is chemistry, and find this out somehow on their own. This could cause you to loose their interest. The concept is giving someone the same respect, you are getting. What if it was the one out of the three you really liked? Why chance it? But if the people you are seeing say "Sure, I am seeing multiple people as well". Shake hands on that and carry on. I think being on the same page and dealing with it maturely is what creates lasting attraction.
At the end of the day you want to find someone mature, who can be honest and can tackle scenario with you upfront. Start the communication game early!
[–]GoldenEagle71 -2 points-1 points0 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Dude, fuck you... Haha
[–]McWhiters9511 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Having options makes girls more into you. Plenty of women do the same thing. If one seems like someone you'd like to commit to, do it if u want. You can do whatever the hell you please.
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