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[–]van_123 points 13 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
Well charisma is the intrinsic ability to captivate people, with either your presence or your speech. I'd say practice smiling and looking like you're really happy to be where you are, and practice talking with a happy yet thoughtful tone. Practice telling stories in as interesting a way as you can, always be calm. When i find myself in the zone where I feel like I can charm the shit out of anyone I meet, I often feel like I'm floating along in the breeze with my stride. Have warm, welcoming body language and ask people questions about themselves and LISTEN.
I don't think uncharismatic people don't necessarily not care what other people think, nor should they use it to manipulate.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Think about it this way. When you talk to someone what most draws you in about them? For me it's someone who says what they're really thinking (and not saying what they think the context warrants) and says it with a smile. Because then whatever they're saying is naturally charismatic because it's you personally!
Some other basic tips could be to make statements or questions regarding what the other person has said and extend onto that or point it back at yourself and how that relates to you. This is charismatic because it's not a robotic approach to 'pick up ladies'. It's you expressing yourself in a really honest way which puts your whole self out there without boundaries. And that's really refreshing.
[–]iz_haz_an_idea 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Quick little tips on how to be charismatic:
Fluctuate tone of voice for more dramatic and captivating effect when you talk.
Move your hands around a little bit to "paint a picture" of what you're saying.
Eye contact, especially when speaking to an audience.
Slow, crisp, clear voice and pronunciation.
Making audience laugh with good humor (crude humor works too, may be a bit risky).
Enjoying yourself when you talk about your thoughts, opinions, and ideas.
Know that you are talking for the enjoyment of your audience (When you speak, know that they appreciate and want to listen to what you have to say).
CONFIDENCE
IMO, showing a large amount of charisma alone is what separates you from the crowd. It's the breath of fresh air everyone's been waiting for. The person they love to listen to. It makes you a, if not, THE leader amongst your peers. It shows that you have that something special others just lack. Hope this helps, and trust me, once you get it down, it will. :)
[–]maddermonkey 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Everyone knows me as the charismatic one.
Truth is, I watched a lot of pro-wrestling growing up and mimic by favorite performers like The Rock and Stone Cold, so with a persona that I created, I come off as larger than life with whatever I do.
[–]playfulpenis 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Charismatic = friendly + dominant = captivating. Take a look at Bill Clinton videos.
[–]sunn_ -1 points0 points1 point 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
charismatic people secretly love attention, and will do whatever it takes to command it.
uncharismatic people yearn for attention but once it's there they aren't comfortable with it.
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