Seddit, I've noticed the right state of mind makes a big difference for me, what are your tricks to get psyched before heading out?

Mindrith · 2012-11-19T01:32:32+00:00

Music. Listen to songs you love that are upbeat and fun, sure you could listen to Chasing Cars by Snow Patrol if you like it, but best save that for a rainy afternoon, not when you're about to go out. Whatever gets you pumped, listen to it.

Friends. Surround yourself with fun-loving people, they will help you get into the mentality to bring the party.

If I'm feeling really tired after a long day, but I still want to go out, a really hot shower works wonders, turn it down cold for 40 seconds before you get out, it will wake you the fuck up.

Take five minutes to reflect on your values, what you love, the compliments you've received; things like that. Think back to every time someone's said to you "Yomarao, you're loving life, I wish I could party as hard as you everyday."

Have a shot. I know a lot of people here believe in limiting your alcohol intake and I agree - but there's something about having a group shot that will get me buzzing for ages.

kyzu · 2012-11-19T03:44:00+00:00

A fun thing to do I suppose could be to pretend you're playing Grand Theft Auto, and whatever you do (besides killing someone) is up to you, with no consequences. The game of life!

peskygods · 2012-11-19T03:29:55+00:00

The "You're So Money" speech from Swingers is one I found the other day and it really hit me.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qhmcJ7Zg5ko

Also a couple of quotes that resonated:

The first step before anyone else in the world believes it, is that you have to believe it. - Will Smith

There's a delusional quality that all successful people have to have. You have to believe that something different to what has happened for the last million tries, will happen. - Will Smith

The man who says he can't, and the man who says he can, are usually right. - Confucious.

GungHoDouchebag · 2012-11-19T00:55:52+00:00

Watch A night at the Roxbury

LifeAquatik · 2012-11-19T07:16:18+00:00

I take a quick shower. Get fresh and so clean. Then I'll drink a couple cups of coffee and make myself look good. Generally doing prep work and looking good are motivation. "I'm healthy, young and look halfway decent. It'd be a shame to waste tonight. Better go out and make mistakes."

Does that sound vain?

dking168 · 2012-11-19T06:37:47+00:00

I find if you know you are going to out. Take a nap before hand, a good 1-2 hour power nap which give you the nitro boost to make it throughout the night.

Also the main trick that I found is to get your social and physical rejection out of the way as soon as possible. People think there are only one kind of rejection (the social one). Where as soon as you go into a club, you approach a couple of sets, get blown out and then you are warmed up.

No! That could not be as farther from the truth. Getting the social rejection out of the way is the easiest. Go approach, say hi or whatever. Girls gives you a you are a sleazebag look and you are on your way. However, what happens when the next girl you talk to gives you a smiling face? Then what? You are have been socially rejected so you don't give a fuck anymore so you say whatever you want and you are feeling confident as fuck and no fucks given mode has been enabled.

HOWEVER, you like this girl, you think she is the one. You think you can pull her. You end up wasting your time with her for the next 30 minutes, until then you then decided OK, TIME TO PHYSICALLY ESCALATE. Then boom she rejects you and gives you, I think you are nice, but we should be friends or a I have a boyfriend. You just wasted 10-20 minutes getting socially rejected and basically an hr getting physically rejected. You wasted in total almost 1.5hrs when you could of only took 30 minutes.

So now you are like wtf? I'm pissed now. Next chick I'm going to approach, I'm going to have absolutely no fucks given mode physically and socially. You do it, fuck physical rejection (5 minutes). Next one, social rejection (2 minutes). Rejection, rejection and more rejections BUT they are all happening under 10 minutes so you are not wasting your time (remember the bar is usually only open for a couple of hours so you have to make your time useful). Boom, FINALLY, one finally hooks, she is staring you with those puppy dog eyes you already made out with her cause you gave no fucks, you already been blown out 10 times, you thought, might as well shove my tongue down her throat and she if she slaps me in the face. Omg, now she is sticking her tongue down my throat. Ok, isolate. Fuck nice, make out more. Ok, it's getting late, tell her you are going to grab a bite to eat. She is like "Yah, I'm hungry too". This food step is optional but I usually am fucking hungry as shit after all that socializing and rejection. If you choose to skip the step, go "hey, after party at my house, let's go". She says OK! If her friend isn't a cockblock, you are 90% of the way there. If her friend IS a cockblock, then your night is most likely over. GAME OVER. You had fun, but no f-close for you.

This is why I usually try for the food step because you can isolate just you and her while her friend is still at the bar. After that, after-party let's go!. She say yes. You take her back to your place, put on some baby making music. Tell her it isn't a party without alcohol. Pour her a shot or two, then jump her. Escalate slowly, stick penis inside vagina. Ejaculate when appropriate. GAME OVER. Congrats! You got in the right state of mind and had sex! Repeat as necessary.

tl;dr: Get your social AND physical rejection out of the way. Watch out for cockblocks. Take power naps beforehand if needed.

huhtamak · 2012-11-19T07:50:30+00:00

Play some peakin' chunes, lift some heavy-ass weights, then clean yo'self up and get aesthetic as fuark (while also playin' some peakin' chunes).

csixtay · 2012-11-18T23:13:13+00:00

go to r/getmotivated
click 'top'
profit

oliver_tate · 2012-11-18T23:33:06+00:00

I have a note on my phone where it says what I believe are some of the most important points when you're out, I usually read it when im in the queue or on the buss.

IsraelGonzalez · 2012-11-19T03:37:10+00:00

I listen to this:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KrZHPOeOxQQ

ehjun · 2012-11-21T02:59:21+00:00

I've been trying this before going out. I like to think it helps.

http://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes_who_you_are.html??utm_medium=social&source=email&utm_source=email&utm_campaign=ios-share

2012-11-18T23:17:44+00:00

It is an all the time attitude you cultivate, not turn on and off.

It all goes back to not questioning yourself. Stop looking for logical reasons to feel good. You're the greatest because you're you. Of course women would want to approach you, and people at the party talk to you, you're the best. You're the best when you shit before work, you're the best when you buy groceries, you're the best when you scratch your balls and watch Dr. Who.

Is this attitude good for society? No, having a bunch of people who don't think critically sucks. But this isn't /r/civicvirtues.

Nerf_Circus · 2012-11-19T05:03:46+00:00

I like to think about my achievements. This year, I have gained a lot of respect from my circle of friends, done Tough Mudder and Jumped off a 6m rock into water. I know the last one doesn't sound like much but I only got over the edge with the 3 second rule, then I did the jump again, the second time almost with ease. This for me proves that do something once and the second time it's a lot easier.

2012-11-20T06:21:11+00:00

I go to the gym the day that I plan on going out, and get in a solid workout to burn off all of my extra energy.

Later on in the night, I just feel relaxed, approaching and talking to girls feels natural. I assume this is the same feeling our ancestors would have after winning a fight or making a kill.

kyzu · 2012-11-19T03:44:10+00:00

A fun thing to do I suppose could be to pretend you're playing Grand Theft Auto, and whatever you do (besides killing someone) is up to you, with no consequences. The game of life!

Yomarao · 2012-11-18T21:25:49+00:00

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Title	Seddit, I've noticed the right state of mind makes a big difference for me, what are your tricks to get psyched before heading out?
Author	Yomarao
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Date	November 18, 2012 9:22 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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