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[–]MacFatty 17 points18 points19 points 11 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Why don't you ask her?
[–]imperiorr 5 points6 points7 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I have. She says she is not used to be looked at this way. I am trying to tell my self that she is just shy..
[–]MacFatty 25 points26 points27 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
If that is so, she is getting uncomftable with the intense display of dominance. Perhaps tone it down just a bit, make sure she really is comfy in your presence.
This may be a far shot, but is this the first girl you've done the dominant eye-contact with? You may be taking it too far, turning it into a creepstare. You mention you got this big ass smile going meanwhile. You want to be the alpha, but not mow her down with a steamroller.
[–]imperiorr 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I dont think its about dominance but rather that she may not be to comfy, like you say! I always use this "trick" with girls. When I do this its because I admire them and that make me smile, its genuine from my side..
[–]joecity856 24 points25 points26 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Make sure you are aren't confusing good eye contact with staring.
[–]imperiorr 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Im not staring! I use to do this maybe one or two times pr. date! We did make out just after..
[–]Gregger90 8 points9 points10 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Eye contact is great and should always be kept. But you are not a robot so try and do it naturally. If you focus on keeping eye contact then you are probably staring. Lets say you have a gf and she sits across from you while the two of you eat breakfast. You will look at her boobs but if you sit and stare at them the entire breakfast it will probably be a bit strange. Think of eye contact like that. You want to maintain it but don't stare. When she breaks eye contact you can look away and return a bit later. It's like ironing your shirt, if you keep the heat on one single place then you will burn your shirt. You need to move around a bit.
[–]heisenberg_21 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Great analogy
[–]duckduckboobs 6 points7 points8 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It makes me really uncomfortable when guys won't break eye contact or just stare at me.
[–]seconddeathstar 3 points4 points5 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Last girlfriend I had said she secretly liked it even though she'd make me stop every time
[–]zuk1 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Do it as naturally as possible. It sounds like your making a constant conscious effort to stare into her soul.
[–]mellybop27 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Maybe she's shy
[–]Solidgame 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Had the same thing happened with my current girlfriend at the beginning, when I made her tell me why she said that it is because she felt intimidated but in a good way. I realized she was deeply in love with me and it made her shy.
[–]imperiorr -1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I think this is the case. She seems to be interested and want to meet me again!
[–]zmc123 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Obviously you're making her uncomfortable.
[–]nmf343 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
me and most of my girlfriends HATE when guys do this. its uncomfortable and we know exactly what you're doing
[–]invinciblesummmer -1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Well what do you suggest doing then?
[–]Offsubject 31 points32 points33 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Don't ask a fish how to catch a fish.
[–]invinciblesummmer 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
hahaha I did think of that but I was genuinely curious as to what she'd have to say on the matter. I think it's a perfectly valid point, it could definetely come across as creepy and that's the last thing I want! (:
[–]zuk1 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
LOL
[–]nmf343 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
just be normal? the intense, pro-longed eye contact is just unnecessary. are you usually doing this before going in for the kiss?
[–]imperiorr -1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
What do we do?
[–]nmf343 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
depends - to me it usually happens before the guys goes in for the kiss. It's like oh he's starring at me for an uncomfortably long time - it must be coming, haha. I'd say just go for it quicker!
[–]unforunate1 point 11 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
There was a post on this sub fairly recently about trying to look at your own reflection in the person's eyes. Maybe try that? It's been working for me.
It seems to keep the person interested and not uncomfortable like staring at their eyebrows or just one eye, like other tips have you do.
[–]TheGodfather_1992-7 points 11 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
She's probably just shy or inexperienced. You can use her question to build up sexual tension.
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