3 months ago, I dm'ed this girl on Instagram. It went well. I got her number, we texted each other almost daily. I told her about lots of stuff. I felt that she was a little self-centered, that she didn't ask much about me but the replies weren't short.

Soon after, I asked her out for a movie. The date went well I guess. I told her I was in the Army, she was surprised. What I felt is that I think I didn't touch her enough. I should've hugged her straight from the start and cuddled with her during the movie.

Before sending her off, I didn't hug her either cause I didn't dare. I texted her about that and she told me she didn't mind actually and I should've told her I wanted to.

Shortly after, I felt she took a longer time to reply compared to before but she still texts me a lot. I called her. She told me about her ex, how empty she felt, but she said she has already gotten over. So I didn't probe further.

I asked her out again. She said she has work but she didn't suggest another day. I asked again, she said she had plans with her friend but eventually suggested next week.

Throughout this period, her replies were very short so I asked why is she so depressed lately. She suddenly bombarded me with how she's feeling so stress and lost, about something missing in her life, family issues and how her another ex gave her false hope recently.

I comforted her and she said the same thing on how she feels so empty and misses those happy memories but she said she has gotten over, so I didn't give up. I comforted her again. I really liked her.

I texted her, "Don't worry, I'll make you happy again. Whenever you're sad just talk to me okay?". She literally ignored that and said her ex texted her saying that he will be waiting for her. So I asked whether she's planning on getting back with him. She replied, "Maybe. I'm not sure haha i'm too stressed to think about it rn."

Wow. My heart literally sank. It hurts. I replied, "Why am I trying to chase someone when I already have so much problems right now." She said, "Huh you're trying to chase me?". She thought I was joking each time I called her babe. She said she was sorry for giving me the wrong intentions. God damn, it hurts. I had my hopes up so high.

I called her a few days later to clarify things. I still didn't want to give up. Next day, I texted her that I would prove it to her that I could make her happier. She said she didn't want to feel stress, she's not intending to get back with her ex nor is she intending to date anyone, or give me a chance even if I wait.

I finally understood. Feels like I'm the dumb one here. I told her to take care and it was nice knowing her. She thanked me for everything and said that she appreciated it a lot. I ended it off there.

What exactly went wrong? Did I not state my intentions clearly enough? Idk man. It's been 3 years since my last relationship, I've never felt this way for a very long time that is why I didn't want to give up.