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marthdotsk · 2017-07-11T13:24:56+00:00

"I'll make you happy again. Whenever you're sad just talk to me okay?"

You just labeled yourself as her emotional tampon right there. Nothing assertive about that, all neediness.

"Why am I trying to chase someone..."

More neediness shown right there. Let me tell you, that quote right below...

"She thought I was joking each time I called her babe."

...isn't true. She liked it. However, you've shown yourself as needy, so any attraction built at any point vanished.

Keep that in mind for next time: let the woman be emotional; don't replicate. Sure, listen and relate, but remain confident. Don't show neediness (ie: "Next day, I texted her that I would prove it to her that I could make her happier."), don't throw pity parties (ie: "Why am I trying to chase someone when I already have so much problems right now."), you don't get all emotional at this stage.

Vulnerability CAN be shown within a relationship that already has a solid foundation. After all, we're all human. But it's extremely ill-advised to show negative emotions when you're at the attraction-building phase.

9874123987456321 · 2017-07-11T11:41:47+00:00

Yep, intentions. 3 months is too long to only go on 1 semi-date, and daily texting can definitly work, but texting her for 3 days then asking her out is more guaranteed

trpmkb12 · 2017-07-11T13:08:17+00:00

A lot wrong here.

Texting too much IMO without getting anything in return. Texting should be for logistics mostly. Everything else for the most part can be talked about in person. If she wants to see you in person she will.
No escalation. Movie date is not the move, especially when seeing her for the first time. Get a drink or go for a walk in a park or something where you can touch/talk to her.
As a result of you not escalating and continuing to text her she didn't see you as a sexual threat in any way shape or form.
You're acting as if she's your girlfriend with this "babe" bullshit, you were nowhere close to that.
Why do you need to make her happier? Go be happy yourself, and if a girl is lucky enough to join that with you she will.
Experience abundance before settling down with one girl. You'll have a better idea of what you truly like/don't like and be a better judge of character.

NiceAlpha100 · 2017-07-11T17:46:55+00:00

You put pressure on her instead of taking it away. Next time, simply be upbeat with her, and alpha. Tell her to no always think so negatively gosh, be a shoulder to lean on and don't be so emotional. Be less emotional than her.

moontripper1246 · 2017-07-11T20:19:45+00:00

Yup.

UndidIridium · 2017-07-11T21:14:30+00:00

What exactly went wrong?

You became very needy. Don't do that.

Do not ignore red flags. They are there for a reason.

You are not her therapist.

You are not there to solve her problems for her.

You are no one's emotional doormat.

Do not be afraid to turn around and walk away. The drama is not worth it.

And most importantly, do not let anyone (let alone someone you just met regardless of how hot she is) have any effect on your emotional frame. You have work to do on yourself, for yourself. I'd suggest you get to it before you approach again.

norwegianmorningw00d · 2017-07-12T02:54:26+00:00

Let's see where you went wrong. 1. You messaged her a lot, got pretty personal in the messages, put more effort, all before you met her in person. 2. You were not physical when you first met her. No sexual tension created, thus she started feeling disinterested afterwards. 3. You were too needy afterwards. Way too needy.

jefftyx · 2017-07-11T14:18:28+00:00

You are definitely a singaporean from the way i see you type your experiences. Can't help you because im new to trp

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