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[–]TangoZulu 4 points5 points6 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Why bother? She made her intentions clear; just fun and maybe FWB. She already made it clear that seeing other people is the plan. Asking her this after the fact only appears passive aggressive and manipulative. You already know her answer.
[–]TheXXL 7 years ago [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link
She's straight forward with you and you should appreciate that. Now it's just a matter of how you see it. Do you want more? Then you should say that and she'll probably break it up, if you are OK with having fun, tell her you see it the same way and proceed accordingly
[–]StawrightoEXdesu 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I want more, but at the same time I'm not too fussed either.
Reckon I should just go on about my day, see other girls on the side and let her make the move?
[–]TheXXL 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
From what I read that would be logical conclusion. I personally hold it this way, I communicate that I am not interested in commitment, and she can do whatever she wants, see other guys and so on. and if the girl is not ok with it, she can leave.
[–]randomcritical 9 points10 points11 points 7 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
But why should you value her when she doesnt value you?
[–]StawrightoEXdesu 4 points5 points6 points 7 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
How does she not value me?
[–]randomcritical 5 points6 points7 points 7 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Because she told you she doesnt want anything serious with you. Now this could also be because shes too afraid to tell you she really likes you.
[–]zincSF 2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
"serious with you" is not the same as "value you".
I was a high value man to a woman for years. Hot sex every month or two. Neither of us had any desire or intention to "be serious". I valued her. She valued me. We both got what we wanted from the "relationship".
Similarly, "really like you" doesn't mean "I want to be serious with you", nor does "don't want to be serious with you" mean "I don't like you". These are tangential things in the real world, and any combination of them is quite possible and reasonable.
[–]randomcritical 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I know that but hes talking about a different kind of value. Im not saying she thinks hes a loser but they obviously dont have the same desires from eachother.
[–]hazelstein 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Read the BOOK OF POOK. They say something. Mean something else. See her actions not her words. Agreed with Randomcritical
[–]StawrightoEXdesu 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
To be hyper technical, she's told me she doesn't want anything serious with anyone. I suspect it's because she's came out of her third bad relationship in a row not too long ago.
She does like me, and finds me very attractive. Hard to say whether she REALLY likes me though.
[–]randomcritical 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Then she needs to get it on with a good guy. I understand it because she has trust issues. I have them too but over time they dissapear. Maybe getting her to talk abput how things went wrong will give you both some clarity
[–]Balkinbalkans 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
You might be surprised to find that people who say they "don't want a relationship with anyone right now" really mean "I don't want a relationship with you."
A woman will commit if she really likes the guy. (The same goes with the genders flipped.)
[–]YungSedditBoy 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
No need to ask her, just do you.
[–]Kary14 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Start seeing other girls but keep her in the mix. Not only will you have more options, but this girl will realize that and it'll make her want you more.
[–]HeavyMeringue 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Do not take her seriously,make your move if you have not already by inviting her to cook dinner with and watch a movie in order to make your move or ask her for a glass of wine to your house.If she is still indifferent then,then you need to move on.Right now she does not want something serious,so after that day if you make out or have sex ,you will wait 4 days first, and then you are gonna call her to come over again for some take out and the show goes on with your take on it from there.
[–]zincSF 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Why ask her that? By definition it's okay; you are not in a declared monogamous relationship, in fact you aren't even having sex yet. So no, it's a bad idea, and if you think it might be weirdly manipulative of communicate something, even more reason to forget it.
[–]bruiser18 7 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
Pathetic.
She told you she doesn’t want anything serious, she’s probably, no, definitely, fucking at least 3 other guys on the regular. Fuck whoever else you want.
[–]Aristogat5672 points 7 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
just please let the weak die off we dont need him
[–]White_Mlungu_Capital 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Tell her, she will chase you.
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