Addicted to sexual validation (idk If this is the right place idk if anywhere is)

2020-10-31T02:38:14+00:00

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what_aview · 2020-10-30T23:39:59+00:00

Hey there, I am reaching you out because I can see a lot of fatigue, pain and distress in the words you write. Therapy could help you; it is not supposed to change you, but it could definitely help with the distress you’re perceiving. I’ve been on therapy since the last two years, and also, I am a psychologist. It’s not the way we are that “is not okay”, that it’s making us shitty people; it’s the way we look at it that makes us feeling shitty (super different from /being/ shitty, that’s important to always keep in mind). You deserve it! Good luck 🍀

Crazy8tyEight · 2020-10-31T00:58:35+00:00

Idk how old you are but I'm 34m and I'm just realizing that this was my problem throughout my life. Our stories are the same shit different toilet. I abused stimulants in my late teens early 20s and moved to alcohol until about 2yrs ago. I've hurt so many People I've loved but constantly chased other women around and cheated. Dated multiple women at once and still hooking up with others.

Because of this I feel like I've lost the chance at the life I crave now as I'm older. Wanting to settle down and Have children. Experience life and what it has to offer. The security that a authentic relationship with an amazing person offers.

It's not easy to stop it's a real addiction the rush of that superficial validation gives. It's easy and for some reason being in a relationship makes it that much easier.

I want to leave you with one thing. Nothing compares to having the adoring validation one amazing person can give you for the potential rest of your life. Nothing compares to the hurt that losing that can bring. No amount of hook ups and drugs will bring that feeling back because it's better than that. It's real and it's out there waiting for you and when you find it never let it go.

Sorry for being all emo but I am currently dealing with the backlash of this exact problem.

Agreable_Actuator84 · 2020-10-31T01:56:03+00:00

Totally hear you! I can be in a great relationship but always have the craving for more more! I don’t think it goes away but you can see the roots of it with a good therapist (or maybe journaling) and it becomes less compulsive. I mean you still feel the urge, but you see it rise in you and you know that getting this next women won’t put it to rest so step back and decide before acting if continuing the seduction is worth it or not.

Title	Addicted to sexual validation (idk If this is the right place idk if anywhere is)
Author	sockaccount12348
Upvotes	8
Comments	11
Date	October 30, 2020 10:51 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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