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[–]Daveee5280 3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sounds like you're a convenience to her.
[–]ExtremeCentrism 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
LMFAO man already planned to fuck her one last time then drop her I respect that decision. Also its not fucked up to drop her if she doesn't really talk to you about her decision on a relationship.
I'll be honest, if you guys are still casually fucking she honestly might not be completely sure but I think you should bring this up to her and talk about your feelings with her tbh. Based off what she says you can kinda of make a decision on that whether if you want to keep trying with her or drop her completely. I personally would drop her if she doesn't seem to receptive because you should move on with your life in a sense and not wait until she decides when she wants a relationship. Moving on will also just help your mental health and free up that space so you can meet new people.
[–]throwaway98300643 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Hey man! I took your advice and told her my feelings. We resolved the issue and she slept over :). Only time will tell tho
[–]ExtremeCentrism 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Good shit chief, just make sure you have a certain deadline please don’t get stringed along. That shit really fucks with your mental health, I’ve been in a similar situation.
[–]throwaway98300643 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
You got any more advice on how to go about this from now on? A few people said that i need to take her off the pedestal/not be too invested, any input?
[–]ExtremeCentrism 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Idk, how did she respond after you told her your feelings? Did she say give you more time? Also what do you mean by resolved? I think instead of giving her alot of time to think about the dating situation just give her a couple days &cut it off depending on y our decision. Your time and feelings are valuable and shouldn't be put on hold because she cannot make a decision. She's probably already sensed that you're willing to wait for her decide on what the status of the relationship is and if she was down she definitely would have said yes. At that point, she doesn't want even take the risk to date you honestly and is stringing you along.
TLDR: Give a very short deadline and cut her off.
EDIT: You can PM anytime also dude instead of posting
[–]throwaway98300643 5 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
It doesn’t let me pm you. but basically i told her that i felt she was playing games with me and i wasn’t fucking with that. That i expect the same energy and respect that i put into our situation. I stressed that if she wasn’t able to give me what i want/continued to give me the runaround then we were not gonna work out and i have no problem leaving. She said that she’s sorry that i feel that way, and “didn’t think she was playing games”. She said she likes me and likes spending time with me. She was very sincere during my confrontation and said she will try harder. That instead of texting me she will be calling me. She said from here on out her actions would change.
I did bring up about if she still saw us going into the direction of a relationship, and she said yes. I didn’t know how to react so i just said “everything with time”. At the end of the day dude, i do really like this girl and would like to be in a relationship with her. However the thought of being in a relationship is kind of intimidating as i have never been in one, and neither has she. If i was to have a girlfriend tho, it would be her. I read about your suggestion about the deadline, and i do have one. My original deadline is the end of this month(March). I just don’t know how to go about this. But i will think more about your suggestions
[–]ExtremeCentrism 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Fixed it you should be able to PM now.
That's good she seemed to respond well .Now its just her actions that can truly show if she means it or not.
Shit LOL, first relationships are very tough. Yeah keep being flirty and have her come over often to do things until your deadline. Just play things out and keep your options open still you know? It seems to me like you handling things well! But make sure you keep your deadline for sure, you don't wanna show neediness and willing to negotiate on things like this.
[–]Blurry-Nights 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Bro, just start seeing other girls, you have a crush on this girl and there's no reason to stop seeing her, you just have to respect that she doesn't want you as her man. So enjoy having amazing sex with an amazing woman, while you continue to date other women until you find your girlfriend.
[–]vesselofmadness 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Classic one-itis.Youre still too invested. She can see it.
Your best off just letting it fade out again or realise that its never going to happen and not pursuing so much. Perhaps as the occasional hookup every month or so, as a backup. Not a primary.
Start focusing your time on other girls. You might just find someone that reciprocates, rather than jus giving you hurdles and disrepect.
Dont have to burn the bridge out of spite.
Moral of the story is if youre confused youre about to learn something.
Ps. Look up corey wayne on youtube. Make sure to read his book
[–]bossman1162 4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
As long as the sex is good, who cares? Relationships are a pain anyway
[–]Nothing096 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Maybe instead of taking unnecessary damaging actions, you could talk to her about how you feel? And then if that doesn’t work carry out the plan
[–]dracoj21 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Abundance
[–]revente -2 points-1 points0 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Then just get rid of her.
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[–]throwaway98300643 5 years ago [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link
I appreciate your input! Can you elaborate more on how to demote her? You’re completely spot on on romanticizing.
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[–]throwaway98300643 -1 points0 points1 point 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I appreciate your input my dude! Would like to speak to you through pm for more advice
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