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[–]Blurry-Nights 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I don't know why people are downvoting /u/IcarusBane1, he's absolutely right.
All of the flirting I do with women prior to my cock being inside of them isn't overtly sexual, it's almost entirely subtle / covertly sexual. I do a lot of touch escalation during the approach, and during the 1st date, and I bring them home on the 1st date, but I don't say anything overtly sexual until after we've fucked. If you are sexual before you've had sex, it shows you as a player and most high value women are not interested in players.
[–]IcarusBane1 -1 points0 points1 point 5 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
You don’t talk about going back to your place or her place when you’re making plans. Just tell her the initial date the park or cafe and if the date is going well then you say come back to mine etc. Sexting before actual sex is a big no no tbh you don’t wanna really be sexual till sex happens. You can flirt even some sexual flirting just a touch. You showed your hand way too early and she already knew what you wanted you gotta keep women thinking but dw you just started keep on approaching you’ll get better
[–]BubbleBlowingBabyy -2 points-1 points0 points 5 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Yeah, you're completely right. I got too excited and got too aggressive with it, I know that you shouldn't talk too much before you actually have sex. But here's the thing though about the logistics, when I texted her about coming over to my or her place she seemed down with the idea by saying "Your place would be better." Maybe she realized later that it seemed a little weird. Should I do a follow up text with her or just stop texting till she initiates and just talk to other women?
[–]IcarusBane1 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Women will spice up plans just to flake 😂 that my place will be better was just spice. And Na just leave it focus on approaching women and getting better always focus on approaching more and more women. Whether you got a steady fuck buddy or a couple. Remember the game
[–]BubbleBlowingBabyy -2 points-1 points0 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Alright fosho, still a lil pissed about missing out on potentially easy booty xD. Btw if you don't mind telling me how you go about your approaches? I usually start off by saying asking for their name, if they ask for my name back I'll tell them if not I'll just voluntarily introduce my name, and I'll get straight to the point asking them if they would like to hang out some time. Do you go for a more direct approach and get straight to the point, or just say anything that's relevant to the enviornment and try to keep the conversation flowing? The thing with approaching is that I don't get nervous about getting rejected, I worry that my conversation might be a little awkward at first
[–]Blurry-Nights -2 points-1 points0 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Dude, women are not going to like you walking up and asking them to hang out, that's insane, think about it.
When you approach a woman, the goal should be to connect with her and vibe with her as deeply as possible for as long as possible. I usually vibe with a girl for 10+ minutes, then get her number, then vibe with her for at least a few more minutes before I go. I don't pressure her to hang out, none of that shit, I focus entirely on making a connection with her to ensure that she'll be thinking about me and wanting to see me again.
If your goal is to just get her number, or just to get her to agree to a date, you're "outcome obsessed" and that's a recipe for misery. Your goal should be to find a real connection with another human being, that will be the grounds of a deep, real attraction.
[–]BubbleBlowingBabyy 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I definitely agree with that mindset on approaching, that's probably why my approaches feel awkward, since I'm just closing the gap right away. But I have to ask what do you mean try to find a real deep connection with someone? That sounds like a girlfriend vibe, which not everyone is looking for. If you go on youtube there's plenty of guys who make smooth small talk and get the number right away
[–]Blurry-Nights 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Doesn't matter if you're after just sex or a relationship, women want to feel a connection either way.
I'm not sure how much you've done this, but not to brag or anything just to back up what I'm saying, I've done at least 1,000 approaches, and what I've learned, that a lot of other guys can back me up on, is it's fucking easy to get numbers. Every girl LOOOOVES giving out their number to any smooth-talking guy who approaches them.
But they aren't going to text you back, and if they do, they aren't going to go on a date with you. They might flirt with you over text, but they will flake on the date.
If instead you focus on forming deep attraction and deep connection / vibing during the approach, you will get fewer numbers and the numbers you do get will be hot, like they cannot wait to go on a date with you.
Try it both ways for yourself, you'll quickly see what I mean.
[–]Sultmaker_9000[🍰] 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You should know already what type of woman you go for unless you're after a dtf and you're pretty sure she is, based on how she comes across. I only relationship more towards traditional feminine women, and she will be naturally attracted at a much higher level to a strong masculine frame. I don't need any other BS.
[–]Rruneangel 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago* (4 children) | Copy Link
What I think is kinda bad.
[–]BubbleBlowingBabyy 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I completely agree with all of this. I got too excited and did more than what I was supposed to do instead of playing it cool. A few questions I have though, first one about cold feet, do you mean she could've been intimidated by the meet up due to how I went about things in our conversation? Lastly, do you think I should try and reach out back to her or just move on?
[–]Rruneangel 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
e meet up due to how I went about things in our conversation? Lastly, do you think I should try
Girls will think of all these scenarios where you f them like a slut, but they are actually good and shy girls. She may have slut shamed herself out of meeting up with you, that s why you don't sexualize over text before actually having sex with her. Yes, I d try again in about a week. If she doesnt respond, let her go
The reason I went in for the kill was because from Tinder she was the one doing all the pursuing by opening the conversation by calling me babe, so my rookie mistake was that I should match the same energy and talk dirty before the meet up. But judging from her pictures she indeed looked like a quiet shy girl
[–]Rruneangel 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
like a quiet shy gir
You'll get her next time. Just try to be different. There's plenty of people on tinder that are thirsty. You'll stand out more if you are mysterious and stimulate her imagination and leave her wanting more.
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