In [this video], Todd Valentine discusses a critical concept called game, which I find to be an elegant solution to approach interactions with people. The general gist is that other people's perception of us, and of themselves, could be designated a number/value. If the person -- a girl in this instance -- perceives you as higher value, she will be aroused. If the person perceives you as lower value, she will be turned off. This of course, is a very basic and oversimplified explanation but in principle, it is a good framework to operate from.

In the video, he explains how certain behaviors will be indicators of which level you're at. Hence, when approaching a girl that's relatively high-value, it makes sense to exhibit behaviors which convey that you too, are high-value.

My question is this: what if the girl you're approaching is relatively lower-value (i.e. instead of a hot party girl, you're trying to hit up the shy catholic girl). The same behavior that conveys high value -- such as escalation -- may thus draw these girls away. They may feel inadequate/insecure in your presence. They may be extra shy and nervous.

In these scenarios, would it be more ideal to level yourself to their level -- i.e. "downgrade" -- in order to build comfort? For example, if you're trying to hit up a virgin, would it not require a more conservative, subtle, and careful/tender approach (e.g. escalate slower, less blatantly sexual/forward, take your time...) instead of the usual approach you'd use on hotter girls (e.g. clear sexual intent, more forward/aggressive...)?

Just a disccussion I think would be worthwhile.