Do your dates ever seem like this.. You meet her give her a friendly hug walk to the restaurant and maybe you open the door. Either way your in the restaurant and start with a little small talk discussing what your going going to order drink or food wise. After you order you start asking her questions, you seem to get her talking a lot and she’s smiling and laughing a bit your getting some decent eye contact and the conversation seems to flow easily. You have a lot in common and there’s no real awkward pauses. You pay the check or maybe you split it either way you walk her to your car and go for a kiss,you get the kiss and say you had a great time then you go back to your car in a great mood. You text her that night saying you had a great time she said she did too. You think things went great and you text her the next day or maybe even a few days later either way she doesn’t seem as receptive. She’s answering but doesn’t seem as interested as she was before and when you ask her out again she tells you no spark, no connection, better as friends or made up some b.s excuse. That’s if you get a response cuz a lot of times they’ll just ghost you. Your left wondering what you did wrong and it can be frustrating as hell

First thing I changed was my approach to dates themselves, how I viewed them and what I did Especially if you met the girl online or had done some texting pre date you don’t have me to ask her a million questions and get her talking or try to learn her life story in the first night. It’s often gonna be a waste of both your time.

I only plan on asking 3 questions of what’s something your passionate about? What was it like where you grew up? And what do you study or what’s your job like? Bonus question would be do you have any hidden talents. Keep in mind you have to have good answers for these questions as well when she asks you them back. Any other questions I ask just come up naturally in conversation but my strategy is not ask a bunch of questions and try to get her talking. I don’t try to get to know her. I view it like I’ll get to know her over the course of dating so why learn her life story on the first date and never hear from her again. I go for the kiss within 20 min or the date and have fun teasing her ,playing games -and sexually escalating. I don’t like waiting till the end of the date to kiss because they will kiss you out of social obligation often. Also your gonna kiss her and get her hot enough to wAnna come home with you all at the end of the date? I used to do that but it works much better to kiss her early and set the tone of man to woman have fun , tease her, play games with her and sexually escalate things over the course of the date and by the end she’s really been warming up for 45 min - an hour. When you meet a girl at a bar and take her home that night do you get to know her life story or do you have fun and sexually escalate.

The way I view dates is like it’s literally just a way to meet her so she can make sure in the guy she wants to sleep with and date. I’ll get to know her over the course of dating. Dates are cool but they are a low risk way for her to make sure your the guy she wants to sleep with and date. If she didn’t want you to be that guy she would not agree to a date in the first place she would reject you and that’s what happens when a guy can’t get a second or third date. He made her initial cut but turned her off and she didn’t feel sexually attracted to him. Now he’s no longer a potential sexual partner so she has no reason to go out with him again. Even if you don’t want to sleep with her on the first date she had to want to sleep with you for her to want to continue seeing you. She had to have the sexual tension and anticipation building. So now the guy who got the date and had a shot is in the same place as the guy she rejected from the start. If you get a girl on a date you should be seeing her regularly. She can’t possibly know if your compatible or not after one date especially when she has a lot in common but she can know she doesn’t want to sleep with you. Basically you just turned her off and screwed up somewhere probably by being overly respectful or just taking the wrong approach to dating.

Women will sleep with men they don’t want to date but will not date guys they don’t want to sleep with.

Even if you want more than sex you don’t want to show her you want more by waiting to sleep with her and showing her you want more by not going for it. If your overly respectful and act plutonic you’ll get plutonic results. It’s a much better approach to make things sexual in nature and sleep with her sooner than later and show her your interested in more by continuing to see her and doing the things you say your gonna do.

I’m also aware that some guys don’t kiss at all on first date as a strategy to keep her guessing which def works if your really confident and good at seduction. If your not experienced I would recommend kissing her early in the date even if you met her online for the first time. Go strong she’s there to hookup with you but it’s easier for her to leave and say no in a public place than if she agreed to come to your place. If your a little nervous and not really in control confident your gonna more often than not come across as insecure when you didn’t go for the kiss and your requesting a second date.

Also I’ve got girls doing the tv/ movie ask questions get to know her date but it was more like 1 or 2/5 when I just have fun and sexually escalate it’s 4.5/5 girls. You’ll always lose one every now and then even if you sleep with her. Sometimes timings not in your favor and she’ll have met someone a few months earlier who asks for exclusivity or she goes back to her ex. These things aren’t in your control. I realized the girls I was getting doing that kind of date I was basically going out on enough dates until a cute one was interested in me and I’d end up dating her. This is speculation but I believe they were just so physically attracted to me that I couldn’t screw things up and she wanted to sleep with me based on my looks even though I was not turning her on with my approach to the date. If your dates seem to have gone good or you feel you lose the girls you really want try changing your approach to the dates themselves as well as your approach to picking them up and texting them. Good luck