basically i learned how to be charismatic and charming from hanging with people who are like 9-10/10 in college but now i dont know how to be myself around girls. if i act charming, nonchalant and borderline cocky i can usually chat up and pull girls but the second i act myself(really goofy and told i have “crackhead energy”) i cant or push them away. it sucks cause being charming is good for hookups or flings but miss the feeling of actual deep relationships with girls, platonic or romantic,that i had in the past being my complete self. any tips on how to be myself for more fulfilling relationships but also still be able to pull.