Escalating verbally without over validating.

Ok-Shock8867 · 2024-05-02T02:04:33+00:00

Compliment the things that are true. Call out the things that aren't.

Most men get into "over validating" territory because they deify a woman and ignore all of her flaws. They compliment her at random times when she's done nothing. They overlook any flaw she has and tell her "no, no, no, you're a perfect angel."

Simply save your compliments for things that genuinely merit it, and don't put her on a pedestal. Match her energy with it. Is she "verbally escalating" with you? It should be two way if you're both attracted to each other.

Keep an aura of playfulness when you do it. For a girl you've been on a couple dates with, stuff like: "Damn, you're going to turn heads at the restaurant in that outfit."

ROBYoutube · 2024-05-02T02:03:59+00:00

Regarding shit tests, they don't exist. They're just things that young men are sensitive about and instead of admitting that they're sensitive they blame women because accepting responsibility for their life is unreasonable. In order to deal with shit tests, just be a man to whom shit tests don't apply. You won't be perceived as trying to qualify when you are not emotionally affected by the normal conversation.

With regards to escalation, what are you trying to do? A major problem I see a lot is people getting bogged down in minutia. Thinking about how much you're 'escalating' instead of engaging with the person you are actively on a date with is a weird but very common way to fuck up. What exactly are you trying to escalate to? What are the 'steps' to 'escalate' to that point? Personally I think feeling up a woman you don't really know while sober in the middle of the day is pretty antisocial. Have you tried just taking her on a couple of dates and then going for a hand-holding walk and a kiss? I mean, once you're kissing you don't need to worry about 'escalating' You're allowed to touch now, and without being a weirdo.

Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2024-05-02T05:37:52+00:00

When I read this post I feel like I'm in clown world.

It's not complicated you talk to women take them out make them laugh have fun.

PUA use to be a very pure thing. Now it's all about selling courses.

This nonsense and analysing things takes the whole fun out of the interaction. Honesty I don't get you guys at all.

Analysing things gives off the wrong vibe.

Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2024-05-02T05:41:13+00:00

I'll tell you a secret.

The same women treat different men differently.

The guys who get these shit tests are guys that women are unsure of their character. If youre a PUA and you're doing what you doing which is following a script then you will have obstacles.

Title	Escalating verbally without over validating.
Author	Professional-War-480
Upvotes	0
Comments	5
Date	May 2, 2024 1:42 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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