My best friend lives 20 hours away and is the only person I can talk to about self improvement, seduction, etc. We’re on the same page about everything. Tonight, we both got some action.

He sent me a text that really confirmed everything we’ve learned.

“0 expectations tn btw”

This came IMMEDIATELY after reading a post about ego and expectations. We both used mindfulness in our situations to assess when we were expecting things. Expectations can come in a lot of ways and are also a root cause of anxiety.

The fix we used:

Self-amusement: The only thing I care about in social situations is enjoying myself. Personally, I enjoy meeting and learning about people. Being silly, dancing, and dropping my ego is what makes me happy. Find what amuses you in your social situations and own it. Understanding the difference between focusing on your happiness and focusing on your comfort is important here. Comforts a bitch.

Anxiety Assessment: Anxiety goes away the second you approach. Just remind yourself that the suffering only comes from the pain period of you deciding whether or not (and most of the time not) you’re talking to her. The instant cure to your anxiety is just opening your mouth.

Nonjudgement: For really anxious people, take a minute to mindfully interact with your thoughts. What’s making you anxious? I found that when I had more negative thoughts about other people, I assumed that others were viewing me negatively.

Self-image: Peak self image allows you to give the present moment your gift. Tussle, play, and love the challenges and problems of life. In your work, small things, etc. Learn to challenge yourself in everything. This will also help your approach game. If you’re used to challenging yourself in one area, challenging yourself to approach a hot chick is a tad easier. The more you play with the present moment, you fall in line with your identity; this leads me to the end-all-be-all, authenticity

AUTHENTICITY IS ATTRACTIVE AS FUCK.

When a girl makes me nervous, I know I can hide it, but I don’t even hide it anymore. That’s actual confidence. Be your vulnerable self at all moments. This sends the message “I’m here. Take it or leave it.”

Not only is this the most fun way to operate. You should DROWN in women that are meant for you.