My experiences over the years have seemed to show me that women tend to deal in extremes for some reason.

Something is either extremeley bad or extremely good. She either wants to be a slut and fuck 25 guys in one year or have a boyfriend/husband and sleep with him once a month if that. Often women speak on men feeling obligated to sex in a relationship and that it isn't their duty to offer sex to their partner, but in the same breath say it's slut shaming to call a woman who sleeps around a whore. I've had long term girlfriends sext me in the morning and 2 hrs later, once we're together, be ice cold. In that relationship getting sex was like pulling teeth, but I just left a recent situation where this girl I actually liked wouldn't let me take her on a date, all she wanted to do was fuck.

Even in the way they treat you. Women have either treated me like I'm gods gift on earth or like a coffee table. An inanimate object without any sexual or romantic desire at all. Part of the problem of this is women see you as this larger than life figure then when you inevitably show them that you are in fact a real person the illusion breaks. They go "Oh this guy isn't perfect he's a regular dude I'm out."

I also once had an ex that complained I don't agree with her enough and withheld sex purposefully for like a week. I bet her I could go much longer and ended up having her cave in after a month which I could go even longer than that, but what's all the games for.

I must be missing something curcial here. It's weird to not want to have sex with your own boyfriend right. Is it that difficult to want a real actual long term relationship with someone that actively wants to have sex with you without making it feel like a game of chess or random chance? What I can I do to avoid this problem?