Feeling Pressured by Morality

RAZKAZ · 2012-08-09T12:46:38+00:00

You're not pressured by morality, you're pressured by nervousness. I can tell, because you're so nervous, your typing reads nervous, and you're not even talking to a girl yet, especially what you said about standing up for yourself without feeling bad.

I think the best thing would be for you to work on your confidence. I find the best thing to do is to find all the things about yourself that you don't like/feel are sub par and remedy them one by one.

Not in good shape? Go to the gym.

Don't feel like you have anything interesting to say? Read about things you're interested in, join a club, start playing in a sports team. Don't let the fact that you suck at something ever deter you from doing it, the only way to get better at something is to practice.

If you feel like you never stand up for yourself, make a point of standing up for yourself. Remember that everyone needs to be a little bit selfish, or life will just treat them like a doormat. I'm not saying be a jerk, but always remember to look after number 1 first, and when you're taken care of, then start taking care of everyone else.

Then once you iron out what you feel to be the kinks in your armour, you can build up.

Feel like you don't even see enough women? Actively spend time in places that women are (coffee shops, book stores, yoga class, whatever)

Feel like you don't have enough women in your life? Start talking to them.

Feel like you're not having enough sex? Start hitting on them.

Hope this helps!

bluehat9 · 2012-08-09T14:11:19+00:00

I think if you internalize the idea that you are high quality, and that you don't need to settle, you will get over this.

There is nothing wrong with wanting the best for yourself. Some people might call that selfishness in certain circumstances, but I say if that is selfishness, selfishness is a good quality.

That said, it's fine to practice with girls you aren't super interested in, as long as you don't lead them on, and as long as you are doing it for yourself and not because you feel bad, or something.

so-to-speak · 2012-08-09T17:24:26+00:00

It sounds like you're defining your life be the women you are with too much. I think you might benefit from reading No More Mr. Nice Guy book and forums.

xhcyr · 2012-08-09T15:19:09+00:00

what you call "morality" is called "being a fucking pussy" in the colloquial.

i guess the world needs beta males too.

Title	Feeling Pressured by Morality
Author	RAZKAZ
Upvotes	5
Comments	19
Date	August 9, 2012 12:03 PM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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