35/f, I've been single for a couple of years but haven't met anyone I find attractive. When the last relationship ended I didn't imagine to be stuck in this dating dessert. I'm feeling utterly unattractive.

I'm Asian, small framed and have shoulder length straight hair, usually dressed casually (I work in IT where dress code is almost nonexistent). I get hit by older white men, overly aggressive black men, and kids who probably think I'm 23 (tired of watching their faces fall when I tell them I'm middle aged).

I tried online dating thing and didn't care for it all that much. I prefer to meet someone in person. I don't do bars and clubs often but I dine out with girlfriends, go to wine tastings, and occasionally show up to francophone social events.

Seddit, how do I make myself look more attractive and approachable?