Hello Seddit ladies. Firstly, I'm posting in r/Seduction rather than r/fpua because I want a discussion and the former will get me more visibility, and the latter just kind of sucks. In the past year I've accumulated some experiences/techniques/theories that I think you might find useful. My goal is to get the guy to initiate, which is pretty old-fashioned, so it might not be everyone's style. I could initiate, but I tend to find that gives me great results in the short-term only, and the fun is over too soon. Also, I mainly focus on The Game. Making seduction fun and challenging. Honestly, ladies, if you're simply looking for a date, this is overkill. All you really need is to be friendly, clean up nicely, and to be brave enough to initiate with a guy. If you're looking to refine your Game, continue reading. Gentlemen, feel free to cast in your two cents. I welcome any feedback.

1) With great power comes great responsibility: Ladies, realize that we hold all the power when it comes to sex and relationships. As soon as you accept this, it will show. Of course be humble, but put on the air of "I'm hot stuff", and it will instantly make you more confident, more smooth, and more magnetic. Women have inherent value in our culture. Men must earn their value (mainly through their accomplishments and usefulness). And men gauge their value by how women treat them. This gives you enormous power, meaning you have an enormous responsibility. Since Game can involve a lot of push/pull, hot/cold, it has the potential to hurt some feelings. So my first rule is that you never play with a guy's head if you aren't sure you can undo it. IE for example don't reject a guy as a power-play unless you plan to later accept him. Guys are sensitive too. Don't be mean. 2) Assume Attraction (kind of): In my experience, any guy that is willing to talk to you when he doesn't have to can be seduced. Walking him home from an event? Stop outside his house and see how long he'll talk to you. Just keep the conversation going as if you have all the time in the world. If he says right away, "anyway, I'm heading inside. I'll talk to you later", then he probably isn't very interested. If he stands around for a longer time to continue talking with you, he CAN be seduced (even though he might not know it). This is your green light to assume attraction. If he's not giving you the time of day, you can continue being friendly and patient with him, and see if he warms up to you, otherwise, do not escalate. Men like to be in control. They have to be open to the idea of attraction, they have to think they decided they like you for themselves. They won't chase you as passionately if they think it was your idea. Once you have a green light, move onto step 3. 3) Gradually turn up the heat: This step is where things can start to vary. But you start with a little warmth. Keep in mind that warmth can be supplied by either you or him. Let's say he's clearly into you (he's providing the heat): kino, asking you to hang out one-on-one, inviting you to shit. Then while remaining extremely friendly and eager, run a little cold. He asks you to come over to his place? Smile warmly and tell him "another time". Once in a while, don't respond to a text. Make him ask himself, "does she like me?". Let's say it's not obvious he's into you. Now it's your turn to provide the heat. At a restaurant with friends? Accidentally nudge his foot with yours a little too often to be accidental. The key here is that on paper, mild footsie is a clear come-on, however, people (including guys!) can experience low self-esteem and self-doubt. He absolutely will pick up on the move, but it likely won't be enough evidence for him to feel confident in reciprocating, especially if you do this in public. Rinse and repeat. The key to step 3 is to start or maintain a gentle simmer. The guy will start to think about you when you're not there. 4) Nurture him and help him nurture you: All guys have their hang ups. Too small, too fat, too short, not smart enough, etc. Find out his and use it to make him stronger. Summon his insecurity and help destroy it. Let's say he's chubby. Summon his insecurity by saying "man, I love Chris Hemsworth. He is cut af!". Let him stew for a little while in his self doubt, then remedy: tell him you love his size and how it makes you feel so safe to be held by so much man. Couple of things to remember to stay gentle with your guy: make sure to apply more remedy than injury. A little insult hits harder than a a big boon. Also adjust your strategy to the sensitivity of the guy. The goal here is to build him up. Make sure he feels like the man he is. Additionally, know your insecurities and make them known (don't expect guys to anticipate your soft spots). Some guys might like to be directly instructed on how you like to be treated, other guys might resist being "bossed around". This is natural. For the latter, you can use the hot and cold I spoke of earlier to reward good behaviour and punish the bad (be fair, and use judgment!). This way you can teach him how to nurture you. The main thing is patience! Perfect guys don't come pre-packaged. Take a formative role.

That's it for now, I may follow up with a part 2.