Let me start by saying that I'm 21 years old, above average looks/clothes/grooming, average stature and relatively good social status in my area/age. I know this matters close to 0 if you have game, but I do want to state that there are no problems with outer game or "on paper" qualities. I get hit on constantly, average 10 Tinder matches a day (again, who cares if you're not closing them).

Low quality women

I'm only getting low quality/low self-esteem women in clubs. I have no problems with dancing, neither merging with groups of hot girls on the dance floor, I get signs of interest constantly, etc. However, when I approach, I usually ask their name, or say I like the way they look. From there, I usually get their names or they thank me and that's all. I take that as lack of interest. They don't ask anything back neither make further comments. Am I expecting too much? Only times I'm k-closing are with low quality or low self-esteem girls.

Flakes

It was just yesterday I a girl flaked on me without an excuse even. Matched with her on Tinder, since the beginning I felt like she was being far too easy but figured she was really interested. Set up a cinema date yesterday, waited more than 1 hour and she didn't reply any of my texts asking about where she was. She calls me at night asking if I was mad at her. I tried to act like I didn't even show up there and there was no investment on my part either, but apparently she didn't care and just asked if I would go out with her today, which I declined. What just happened? Is this common?

No guts

Went to the club with this other girl I met on Tinder, but huge age/experience gap here (she is 29). At first everything seemed fine, but I think I had no guts to escalate things with her. So we spent about 2 hours talking, then dancing, and no escalation. I wasn't getting any sign of interest from her so figured I wouldn't escalate otherwise would come off as creepy. After a while she simply vanished on the dance floor without even saying bye. What are the chances that this happened because I didn't escalate? Pretty big I think.

Side note

Men get a very bad rep where I live - most are very disrespectful and abusive when it comes to pick up. For that reason I see that if you want to get girls you have to work twice as hard. But for that same reason I can't seem to have attitude to escalate (when there are signs of interest, obviously) because I don't want to come off as one of them. Has anybody ever been in a similar situation? How do you deal with this? For those who think I'm exaggerating, I've been in many other cities and clearly noticed how easier and more approachable women were, so it's definitely a location issue.