Am I doing something wrong? Girls seem to lose interest after Tinder match

G_Refined · 2017-03-03T13:36:08+00:00

Here's what happens with some guys, they open with a awkward or weird statement/gif. The girl responds in a joking/sarcastic way and guys just stay on that sarcastic joking conversation train for way to long. The girl goes from, ok this guy is cool and funny, to ok you've got my attention let's have a normal convo and plan something, to ok I'm over it this guy won't stop being sarcastic and have a normal conversation. That transition can happen very fast.

Keep opening with what you open with but keep the sarcastic messages down to like 2 messages and then transition into a normal convo that seeds you and her hanging out.

m_happy · 2017-03-03T13:14:46+00:00

Go in for the kill, ask them out immediately after the gif. Move on if they don't respond

William_J_Bucksworth · 2017-03-03T15:09:11+00:00

Think of Tindr as a high end nightclub where all the hot women are constantly getting hit on. Except at this nightclub any guy can access it 24/7. That includes you, but if you think you're the only one for her and can be kind of flirty coy or just rely on your looks, there's 5 other guys who are slightly less better looking but can be direct and still get away with it.

GermanySheppard · 2017-03-03T13:47:38+00:00

Just some heads up for you my friend. I have had a couple tinder accounts from deleting or even just wanting a fresh start. Tinder is not as good as it used to be a few years ago. Matches were not hard to come by. Today though, women just aren't interested in tinder anymore. They don't check the app often and I dont either. I can get a message and it won't give me a notification at all anymore. If you want to find a new girl. Start taking up activities in the community. Meet people then you can start making some real connections.

tnais · 2017-03-03T16:41:17+00:00

I just tell them straight up in the first message "I would love to mess around with you"

if they're dtf they meet up. if they're not, unmatch. super stress-free and efficient :D

heydenis · 2017-03-03T19:24:57+00:00

Girls, but also boys, use Tinder as a game to see who match them. It's just a game.

I think I have a meaningful conversation on the average of 1 on each 250 matches.

Chairman_Mittens · 2017-03-03T21:43:37+00:00

For the average guy, Tinder is going to be one of the most inefficient, frustrating ways to meet women. Guys who have charisma, confidence (looks help but aren't everything) are the ones who are making shit happen with these women. I'm a very good looking dude, and it's extremely difficult making anything happen on Tinder. Ton of matches, very few dates or hook-ups.

Women on Tinder have the attention span of a goldfish. It's because they're being hit on by dozens or hundreds of other guys at once. You're not going to get anywhere unless you stand out. So unless you've got incredible text / chat game (very few guys do), you need to get her on a date ASAP. If she isn't interested or postpones or says she's busy and doesn't reschedule, drop her and move on. It's already done.

Also, keep in mind that many profiles are simply there because they want a confidence boost, they're just bored and have no intention of meeting anyone, are married, or are just bots.

Overjay · 2017-03-03T13:24:37+00:00

Go out in real life, not this electronic bullshit

IWriteForGroupies · 2017-03-03T12:47:48+00:00

Please post a field report with dialogue.

t1mman · 2017-03-03T16:27:36+00:00

Do you have examples of those conversations? Kinda hard to see the issue when we don’t see the issue!

Title	Am I doing something wrong? Girls seem to lose interest after Tinder match
Author	martianartisan
Upvotes	17
Comments	23
Date	March 3, 2017 12:22 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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