Hi Seddit

After a long time being celibate, I had some luck. Here are the details for you to criticize me and maybe help me understand where I went wrong.

I met a girl at closing time at a bar, and seemed like she was into me. Anyway, I asked her out the next night. It went as follows....

[me] come meet me at XXX at time XXX

[her] ok!!

[her next day] how do I get there

[me] Ill come pick you up (I think my first mistake. I should have made her figure this out herself)

I pick her up the next day. I decided to be more of a nice guy than I usually am. I took her to a restaurant / bar. We hung out there for a while, and then, moved to another bar to continue drinking. Second mistake... I paid for drinks here (and before). After that, I took her to another bar, and we drank / talked some more. As she got tipsy, she started looked at other dudes, and started commenting how hot they were. I don't know if this was a shit test or not, but I lost my frame. One of the dudes comes up to us and starts talking to her, and she starts making physical contact with him. Apparently they exchanged numbers. Anyway, at the end of the night, I regain her and take her back to my place. But apparently, the dude has been texting this chick. We come back to my place, and start making out with her. I get to a little further than that (sucking her nipple and rubbing her vagina). She gets another text from that other dude saying "hey, im outside". I try to continue escalation, but she says other LMR stuff ("i should not be doing this... we just met... this other guy is contacting me.. he seems cool and i want to hang out with him... but dont worry, we wont do what you and have been doing...."). She tells me she wants to go chill with the other dude. I say that I am surprised (another mistake). I wanted to caveman her, but I was a little taken aback by this new development. She said that she would go out to talk to the guy, and maybe come back, but I knew it was over.

Anyway seddit.. I think some of my mistakes were that I didn't escalate fast enough when I was in isolation at my apartment. Secondly, I took the beta male decision when she tested me at "hey, i am going to go meet this guy". Instead of letting her go, I should have cavemanned her. But I wasn't sure if forcing her was a good idea, as I didn't want a rape case against me, lol.

Anyway, that's my first FR seddit. Please criticize. You all have been awesome so far!

PS: The main thing that hurts me is that this girl was barely a HB6, maybe HB7 in some other people's eyes. Really fucked my confidence :(

*edit: cleaned up some grammar issues in a more sober state *