Let me start off by saying that this was kind of weird for me but it turned out to be really good. Chick (we'll call her "AS") is 18 and i'm 17. We've been friends for a while but we haven't talked in a while. I'm new to Seddit but I've done some reading here and there and decided to just...try it, test my "natural game", whatever it was.

Note before reading on: She just recently broke it off with her abusive, 3-year old BF who forced her to cut off communications with any guy she knew. So talking her was like having a clean slate between us almost.

When I talked to AS on Facebook (yes, I know, the worst place to start), we chated about how things we're going in life, how we haven't talked in a while, and suggested that we kick it sometime. I made some jokes and a little bit of role play to set up a time to meet up. Aside from the obvious stupid mistake of trying to do it by online game, I mentioned that I wanted to take her on a date. Nevertheless, she agreed, and I asked for her number (since I knew i wasn't going to see her in person) and she gave it to me and told me to contact her. AS must have forgotten about it, so the week passes by and the "date" never happened. Weekend rolls around, she says she is going to bring a friend and she doesnt. awesome

PART ONE: THE GROVE

On the way to to our first stop, we joke around in the car and start great convo. We even held hands at one point, which I took immediately to be an IOI. AS mentioned directly that i'm touchy feely and I ignored it a bit, and I said something but I forget

Things got shaky though: She mentions her ex-boyfriend and the things she used to do with him. I try to shrug it off, playfully suggesting things such as "Who is he?" and using a negative nickname to associate him with. I directed her off that topic and into a different topic. I'm a shy guy, and there was time where things were quiet, but I managed to rekindle conversation when she didn't. I experimented with some kino, putting my hand on her back and hip as we were taking pictures, and she responded positively by doing the same thing back. and guess who's page she brings up? That's right, her ex. I immediately close the laptop, talk about how we came to have a good time and not worry about the past and walk out (I used the "nice guy" approach here a tad bit, but put my own limits on her behavior which i didn't like. I honestly did not know what to do in the situation and I think by doing so I talked about having a good time instead of SHOWING her a good time. I Another Mistake: Asking her what to do next. I also directed my next moves by telling her what i was going to do. I avoided this in Part 2, but I felt it took away from the mood almost immediately. learned my mistake

She was also texting her friend from time to time and was really hung up on her old boyfriend. I tried comfort again but for a BRIEF second, didn't work, and taking from my behavior of ignoring the subject, she stopped talking about it.

PART TWO: THE BEACH

AS doesn't want to go home, and instead I drive her to the beach while she naps on the chair. When she wakes up, I head her to the pier and she asks me a question about my sexual fanatsys (took me off guard and she said she just likes to ask everyone. I don't think it meant anything). We bounced back and forth, I used the environment as my domain, and she mentioned the beach to which I suggested playfully that I have to cross that off my list with a wink (Beta move? haha).

Now that I think about it, most of my "approaches" were weak. But that's why i'm here.

Anyway, we're on the beach, we sit close together and I take off my jacket and put my arm around her and hold hers but I wasn't feeling any IOI's from her so i didn't try to go further. On the way back, I just got to know her more, played my favorite CD which she instantly loved and she suggested we catch a movie later this week. That was the end of the night

One thing that AS mentioned was "You're so laidback and fun to be around, I'm surprised no girl has snatched you up yet". Throughout the night, I realized I was myself and had fun. I looked back on a couple of mistakes and I think I learned a lot from them. It's all about practice and I'm going to have plenty of that. I probably overanalyzed myself, but eh, im here for feedback

EDITED TO MAKE IT SHORT (somewhat)