Okay so I'm used to doing things on my own everyday. I have no problem going out and drinking a coffee or grabbing lunch by myself. I actually enjoy be being by myself more than being with other people to be quite honest but last night for the first time I went out to a bar alone. I asked all my friends and even acquaintances from school if they wanted to grab drinks and no one wanted to so I was like "Fuck it, I'll just go by myself".

I'm in my early 20's so I thought it would feel weird going to a bar without a group of people since I'm so used to it but I gave myself a chance since I wanted to have a good time. I had no plans whatsoever or expectations. I started walking to the first bar I had in mind where they let you play nintendo 64 games while drinking your beer and I run into one of my cousin's longtime friends. Keep in mind I did not have any plans to meet up with anyone this night. She asks me if I want to go with her to a bar to meet up with her friend and I say yes. I learned that saying yes can lead you to interesting nights from a friend in San Francisco. Anyways, so we get to the bar, we meet up with her friends and I start doing my own thing. It was just the beginning of the night so I order myself a beer and I see a couple of girls sitting watching this shitty band perform so I sat next to them. They had left after the first song I listened to but it was alright I couldn't really hear them over the noise of the music anyways. I made my way back to a seat to people watch and I run into some people from high school. They asked me who I came with and I pointed to my friend (this wasn't the first time I was asked that this night) but I got bored so I told them it was nice seeing them and we end up going to the next bar.

I ask my cousin's friend for advice on how to talk to strangers (more particularly girls) and she told me to just go up to them and introduce yourself just like that. I had been eyeing this one chick with light purple highlights but she was at the other side of the bar so it was kind of a trip to make it to her through the crowd. So I told myself "Fuck it" and I started going through people, bumping into them but she was walking towards the other side of the room by the time I almost made it to her. I thought I lost my chance to be honest. I went back to my group of acquaintances and talked to them for a little bit. When I looked up for a second, the girl with light purple highlights was walking right towards me and she was passing me by! I couldn't just let this opportunity go to waste so before she had her back entirely pointed at meI tapped her on the shoulder and I tell her the first thing that popped into my head, "Oh my god. You're gorgeous. What's your name?" I was shitting my pants in that second for her to respond but then she smiles, turns her feet towards me and says "Daniela, what's yours?" and shakes my hand. I thought to myself "HAAAZAAA you still got it boy" (I just got out of a 3 year relationships not too long ago).

So we start chatting it up and I can tell she's interested in me. I ask her where she's from, I find out she's from the town over from mine, she asks me if I speak Spanish (she was a fluent Spanish speaker), I crack a joke about how bad I am at speaking Spanish, she laughs (Keep in mind our conversation was in Spanish so this is the best translation I can do).

While in this entire conversation she continuously brings herself closer to me. A minute in and I had my hand on her waist, leaning in to hear her talk more clearly over the music. She also asked me who I came with and I pointed to my group of acquittances (why do people ask this question? This was like the 2 out of 4 times I was asked this that night) and I asked her too. She said she came with a dude that was her friend...I challenged her and asked, "Just a friend or more than that?" she smiled and said "Hmmm a friend...he's across the bar. He tends to get jealous easily if I'm away from him" this gave me a feeling to continue to challenge her.

Now this next part was ballsy and it was probably the beer talking but it just came out in this next question, "Give me 5 minutes and answer a question for me. Who's more handsome? Your friend who's waiting for you across the bar or the guy that you're talking to right now?" She looks at me with this side smile and tells me "Well...I live with him so I can't answer that. But I'm around here on the weekends and if you're ever in my town you should let me know. Do you have an Instagram?" I tell her that I do and hand her my phone so she can add herself. Finally she tells me, "Nice meeting you. I'll see you around" and that was it.

I approached probably 5 chicks this night, with no expectations in mind and I literally would leave the conversation if I felt bored even within the first minute. It took me 5 boring chicks to get to 1 interesting one. Was it worth it? YUP. Did I have fun? YUP. It was great. I second guessed myself at first but I still went for it. I didn't think, I just did and gave 0 fucks. It really just comes down to a numbers game to see who is interesting and who can hold a conversation. This was my first night going out on my own and picking up chicks on my own too. I had so much fun because I didn't stress rejection and I focused more on having a good time. If you read this far, take this as motivation and don't stress so much about talking to girls. It's supposed to be fun, not stressful.

TL:DR I went out by myself, ran into a bunch of people I knew and hit on chicks. It was fun as fuck and I recommend you to do the same.