Focus on yourself

taquitoboi108 · 2018-05-02T02:14:07+00:00

I'm not a pickup artist or a "stud" by any means. However I'm going through the same kind of mental brain storm you're going through. What I would say though is one, improve your confidence, body language. pick up a hobby, doesnt matter what it is, just get good at it and develop it into a real skill. Dress well, read books and take care of your hygienes. Most importantly make plans/ have a daily routine. Once you have all that together, you're basically all set. A man that knows how to take care of himself and is not a follower will attract women.

SJW_Valor · 2018-05-02T06:13:12+00:00

I've found that working out and dieting (mainly working out) increases confidence by tons man and honestly I think that's the first step to having becoming a great pick up artist

ResidentCut · 2018-05-02T08:36:16+00:00

Dunno, really. I'm not sure that that's how it works, to be honest. My stud friends all seem to be losers in life! (apart from when it comes to getting with girls lol)

But last year I took up playing a sport for a team, got a better job, taught myself the piano (i'm not mozart, but people are somewhat impressed) and guitar and went sky-diving a few times. Also started reading some books which is something i've never done. I hate reading!

Hasn't changed anything with girls to be honest, but I guess self improvement is always good. I just now believe that it's irrelevant when it comes to getting laid

throwitaway45822 · 2018-05-02T12:56:53+00:00

Mostly work out because it makes you look good, and move more purposefully aka you don't look weak or uncoordinated. And generally, gives girls a sense that you wouldn't simply crumple and fall over in a fight for her life.

And develop a sense of humor, listen to comedians and pick up on how they come up with funny observations of every day events. Doesn't have to be weird, i'm sure you've got friends you crack jokes with, you could probably just listen to their cd's a few times and pick it up their style of humor with out actually making a conscious effort to do so.

I like Hannibal Buress, Mitch Hedberg, early Louis CK, Bill Burr, etc

tab13092 · 2018-05-02T14:50:10+00:00

When I started working on my own self improvement (about a year ago) I just stepped back from life for a bit and deeply reflected inward.

Figure out your strengths so you can play them up and use them to your advantage on your self improvement journey, and honestly admit to yourself (because a lot of people won't be honest with themselves, and in turn make no progress forward) the areas you lack and start immediately improving those.

Ideally, you'll play up your strengths and while working on your weak points (ie Social Skills, Time Management, Lack of Style basically anything you feel needs improvement in your day to day life)

Also, it's a lengthy process so while you should keep your end goals always in mind to help you along don't focus too much on them as you'll overlook the small steps/victories on your journey. I would easily get discouraged, until one day I realized I needed to go light on myself and enjoy the small victories in life.

Just focus on the things you want, and work on becoming the person you want to be. Generally, it's different for everyone so there is really no "On Size Fits All" advice other then to keep positive, take care of your mind and your body, and keep moving forward.

Best of luck!

Title	Focus on yourself
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Date	May 2, 2018 12:45 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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