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Esmond_Mutt2323 · 2022-05-09T20:32:55+00:00

I have to be honest—I’ve had a couple of sex on the first date experiences over the last year, and neither one became anything. I’m not discouraged by it, I look at them as experiences to share with boys (since I’m now the only single guy in the bunch after my divorce). I would not sweat it. Maybe down the road take the approach of leaving her wanting more by not having intercourse.

mabden · 2022-05-09T22:36:12+00:00

Can confirm. The longest relationships I have been in were second or third date sex.

wolvtongue · 2022-05-10T06:27:45+00:00

Modern Relationships are like some sort of mental disability.

Alarming-Unit-7214 · 2022-05-09T20:57:04+00:00

Ive noticed it as well. Not all the time, but def more often than not when sex is held longer off it, it turns out to be a longer thing

quadfintryfin · 2022-05-10T07:17:42+00:00

Personally I think 99% of the time this is the algorithm ( decided by the woman usually halfway thru the date)

A) Hookup on first date- one and done

B ) Not hookup on first date- she gonna try to lock you down

Women know pussy is the commodity so if they deem you relationship material they are not going to give it up easily for fear of losing you.

Women learn that the chase of their pussy is what keeps guys coming back.

MattPruga · 2022-05-10T09:18:07+00:00

they want a a quick dick and that's it, they move on. Girls that are looking for relationships don't usually sleep with you on the first date. You are picking the wrong women.

SilentJoe008 · 2022-05-10T07:43:03+00:00

because calling a guy who they slept with on a first date make them feel slutty

but if you are a guy who will stick around and taking things slowly its fine

2022-05-10T19:31:33+00:00

I don't know man. 99% of the girls I've had sex with on the first date have come back for more. There's only like 2 who I haven’t fucked multiple times, and it was due to logistics.

Then again, when I think about it, in all the serious relationships I've had, we have gone out a few times before getting dirty. Actually, every single time we have gone out a few times before sex it has resulted in a serious relationship.

There could be something to this...

When it comes to turning ONS to FWB, just fuck them good bro, and remember to pull their hair. Be rough but also sensual, read Sex God Method. Think about her pleasure more than yours. Go as rough as she can take it, be sensitive to her reactions. Just make sex an unique experience and (nonverbally) make them feel like they are the hottest shit out there. Compliments and other actual affectionate words can come at a much later time after you have seen each other multiple times - at this point your affection is physical.

It's about the combination of rough and sensual. If you go full rough, you could be dangerous, if you go full sensual, you could be a wimp. But rough and sensual, that's a lover. I alternate between kissing them all over and holding their hands romantically like I love them to grabbing their hair and slapping them around like a dirty slut, and this is during the same session. Here you also need to observe her reactions, does she like the rough part and hate the romantic part etc. Then adjust accordingly.

Of course if you can't last that long, it's possible but not so easy. For that problem we have reverse kegels. I can go for hours because I don't focus on cumming at all, but that's not to brag because I used to come in under 5 minutes and be afraid of sex because of it. It took a long time of practice. But the thing about not focusing on cumming is that it allows you to stay in the moment and unleash your animal inside. Not just use someone to get yourself an orgasm. Then there is no end goal, it's just primitive fucking and enjoying. And that's when they come back.

Tl;dr: If you give it to them good enough, it won't matter if you text them the next day or next week or wait for them to text etc. They will be up for it...most of the time.

nevertextgoodnight · 2022-05-09T21:00:04+00:00

Dude, after the first date always wait for them to text you first. You can hit them up in a week but if you hadn't heard from them in that time it's prob over with

It could be bad sex but I've had girls stick around after not so stellar performances so it could be something else, again, you texting too much maybe

2022-05-10T07:26:54+00:00

I guess that she can just treat this as one time adventure and she has not connected with you much. You completed your quick race to final base, not clear how would you go from that.

Pedrao420 · 2022-05-10T15:25:25+00:00

Ghost them after

ZealousidealStory349 · 2022-05-30T03:09:59+00:00

I've been going on a lot of dates with new people. When I don't make time for a 2nd, ghost, or fade out like you're speaking of, it's because the sexual connection was "meh" and I didn't feel like there was much reason to believe it would reach my bar for sex.

It feels like you can tell when "it's just not it" within the first couple times.

Title	Fools gold
Author	Healthyred555
Upvotes	26
Comments	19
Date	May 9, 2022 8:29 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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