Premise: this happened on Sept 10, I've been meaning to post, but I was too busy lazy to do so.

Her name was Jessica: and she's a total torn on for me!

For starters, she's petite at 5'1", and so fit you can see that line across her chest and thought the abdominal to the belly button, but no visible ABS, that's toooo masculine, I life feminine women, fit, but feminine.

She's an accomplished artist, not striking it rich (yet) but making a comfortable living dong what she LOVES and on her own schedule.

We met at a party (common friends' wedding) at the beginning of September, and we hit it off so much that we ended the party making out like teenagers. We could both sense the sexual tension between the two of us, and we told each other that we were going to go in the terrace to make out, and make out only, no other funny business because we both wanted to be confortable in a bed with plenty of time to take the best of each other.

And making out we did!

I could feel her wetness by touching her panties, and she surely enjoyed feeling my wood!

We had to stop it I had to stop it if I didn't want to have an accident right there and then. But we both looked at ou calendar and the earliest we could both get together was Sep 10, at her place, I was going to bring a bottle of some spacial wine that I can get through a special connection and we were going to hang out all afternoon.

I only texted her 2-3 times during that week+, I don't do the text game.

But we became FB friends and she liked and commented on some of the pics and stuff that I have in there.

Sept 10 finally arrives, I show up at her place strategically late by 20 minutes, she very happy to see me, and she's wearing a very sexy dress, casual enough for every day, still very sexy.

We put a movie on in the background, a movie that we both like for its story, creativity and the innovative cinematographic techniques used (I have a variety of interests) and we open the bottle, pour a couple of glasses, and wow, that was good wine. And we kiss.

Within a few minutes we are on her bed, drinking wine, kissing, and undressing each other one piece of clothing at the time; and it doesn't take long for her to be fully naked since she's only wearing 2 pieces of clothing.

And this is where I screwed up. I've been playing some BDSM with a friend of mine and.. I come on too strong with Jessica, whom - while we are both naked in bed together, and we are both super excited, and horny for one another - I practically just met one party ago.

She freaks out Too soon.... too soon for this.... too soon... and after a few minutes, as we are both naked after kissing and some reciprocal oral... she's all freaked out. The mood, her mood is gone. So is mine since I can see that she's freaked out.

We go to her couch, still both naked, watching the movie, and drinking wine, and... we talk about anything but sex.

The movie is over, she's all apologetic saying that while she talks a good game, she prefers love making to fucking; I understand, we make a date to do it again the following week.

But she's no longer responding to my emails, text, calls.

I can see where I screwed up, while I was able to create enough attraction she needed a bit more time to get to the point to try some kinky stuff, what I was trying to pull off was either too kinky or too soon or both.

Screwing up is part of the learning process, for seduction/PUA and any other skill we want to acquire. Too bad because she was really a HB8/9 in a small contain with extra helping of cuteness.

TL;DR: screwing up is part of the learning process, and if you enjoy kinkiness you might want to build unconditional trust before crossing that bridge.